In psychology, there is such a thing as constructive interaction. This method will be very useful to us in the art of raising our own children. The reason lies in the change in the adult's behavior towards the child. By changing in oneself quite a bit, a huge number of conflicts and problems in upbringing can be easily avoided. They may never even appear in your life.
Instructions
Step 1
If you find time to talk with your child, then talk to him as you would talk to an adult. Be sure to face to face. It is very important that your eyes are on the same level.
Step 2
If your child is upset about something, don't ask him questions. All your phrases must be affirmative.
Step 3
It is very useful to express to the child how you understood what exactly happened to him, and how he felt at the same time. For example, "I know that you hit Petya with a book because he took the typewriter away from you. You were offended."
Step 4
It is very important to maintain a pause in the conversation, to allow the child to comprehend his feelings and emotions. If he stopped talking and looks away, then shut up, give him the opportunity to think calmly.
Step 5
And the main rule, never and under any circumstances, do not compare your child with other people's, more exemplary, in your opinion, children. Each child has something special that sets him apart from everyone else. Don't forget about it yourself and let's not forget it. If you really need to compare, then do it by comparing his present with him in the past.
