Many people who have already been married cannot create new families, arrange a personal life because of their children. Faced with such a problem, mothers simply prefer to sacrifice themselves rather than conflict with the person closest to her - the child. But there is no need to conflict, it is worth looking at this problem through the eyes of a child. Understand him and help in such a difficult situation.
Instructions
Step 1
If mom announced that a new man has appeared in her life, you don't need to immediately throw up a scandal, refusing to take into account all compelling arguments. To begin with, calm down, think about the whole situation, how to get something positive from the change in the composition of the family. Now a man will appear in the house who will take on all the most difficult problems: financial and material support for family members, physical work, etc. Mom will become kinder and freer from the fact that she is not burdened with all the problems in the apartment, she will be calmer and more balanced. This means that she will look at many of the difficulties of her children with a different, more adequate look.
Step 2
You should not immediately put a negative barrier in front of the person who takes the place of the father in the family. After all, a smart mother, and the stepfather himself, will not force children to call a new family member "dad", unquestioningly fulfill all his requirements and get used to all his habits. And if the relationship with his own father is not interrupted, they simply have to continue, communication and periodic meetings, or even temporary residence in his family, will bring only positive feelings and emotions. The stepfather will remain the stepfather, and the father will remain the father. This is the main condition that divorced parents must fulfill.
Step 3
Try not to conflict with your stepfather, help him with the housework, show minutes of attention to him, communicate, find common interests. It is difficult to do this, but sometimes new friends become no worse than old ones. There is no need to be afraid that my mother's new husband hates children, that he will take everything away from her or begin to offend her. Children are little detectives who, no worse than adults, can scan a person for positive and negative traits. And if the stepfather turns out to be a good person, and can make mom happier (or even the whole family, because she is now a full-fledged one), go to meet adults, do not show hysterical "I do not want", "I will not", just because the uncle is a stranger …
