What could be more beautiful than first love? Probably, these feelings cannot be compared with any others. Most often, the first love happens at school, these are the first experiences, the first pleasant emotions, etc. Every child should experience this, it is love that teaches kindness and understanding, which is important for any person. Parents are always worried about their child during this period, because the fragile psyche of the child is so easy to damage, you want to protect him from unnecessary disorders, give good advice, etc. But very often parents make serious mistakes that lead to misunderstandings between them and the child, as well as to serious resentment. There are several such common mistakes.
Instructions
Step 1
What do parents say to their child most often when they find out that he has fallen in love? Of course, the fact that the time has not yet come for a relationship and you need to think about studying, and not about the opposite sex. But only such prohibitions will not lead to anything good. As a rule, the first feelings arise during the period of hormonal changes, at this time children become more sensitive and react sharply to any words addressed to them, and such statements of parents can settle a huge number of complexes in them, because classmates and peers are enjoying their first love around them. Because of such prohibitions, the teenager and the parents simply cannot develop a trusting relationship. It is extremely important during this period to communicate with your child as an adult, trust him, not try to resist his feelings, but rather treat them with understanding, give good advice and be his best friend. The first love may and will pass, but gratitude to the parents will definitely remain.
Step 2
Mothers of girls, and sometimes boys, are most of all afraid that because of their first love, children can make serious mistakes, up to and including unwanted pregnancy. Therefore, parents often threaten their child that they will lock him at home so that he does not do stupid things. But only this is not a way out of the situation, but on the contrary its aggravation. So that the child does not commit rash acts, you need to be able to talk frankly with him, you should avoid omissions. During the conversation, you need to focus on the fact that the parent trusts him and is confident that he will do the right thing.
Step 3
The sexual topic is quite serious, many parents are ashamed of it, and that is why extremely undesirable situations arise in the future. But there is nothing shameful in sex, you do not need to shame your child because of this, you should explain to him that sex is a normal phenomenon, only you need to decide on it only with a very close person and only deliberately, since it is extremely serious.
Step 4
There is no need to criticize your child's choice. First, he will still disobey his parents, even if in the end they turn out to be right. Secondly, in this case, parents will look like real enemies in the eyes of a teenager, respectively, you will not have to count on a good relationship.
Step 5
It is very important to behave competently in the process of growing up your child, since it depends on what kind of relationship will develop in the future, how much the child will trust mom and dad, and listen to them. Do not prohibit your child too much, since adolescents always take prohibitions with hostility, you need to be wiser and look for an approach to the child.
