How can you live your life and not make mistakes? Of course, this is impossible, but there is always a chance to fix them, learn from them and not repeat them again. It was the attitude of man to his mistakes that made him a man. When he suddenly realizes the source of his mistakes, a new path in life opens up for him.
If a child has committed a misdemeanor
One of the ancient sages once said: "A madman is one who, every time, making the same mistakes, expects different results." So parents should teach their children to treat their actions correctly. If they manage to do this, then the life of children in adulthood will become much easier.
If a child stumbles (stole something, lied to someone, etc.), and decided to admit it, you need to support him, and not scold him. Because it was not an easy step for him. Listen to him and make it clear that you appreciate the recognition and that this step was not easy. In no case do not blame the child for what he did, but only praise for admitting your mistake. In a few days, when everything settles down, return to this situation, but in an allegorical form. Think of a fairy tale where the hero would act exactly like your child. As a result, you will understand what conclusions your child has drawn, and how you should proceed.
It happens that parents learn about the actions of little pranksters from their acquaintances or strangers. It is necessary to approach this situation from the other side. Share the story with others, and ask your child to share their feelings about her and her characters. As a rule, children understand why this is all arranged and predominantly admit what they have done. Again, there must be full acceptance of this fact on the part of the parents and further clarification. If the child is sure that punishment and abuse will inevitably await him, then the next time he will not say anything and will more and more withdraw into himself. A child is a member of the family, so he always adopts habits and behavior patterns from his parents. If something is wrong with your offspring, then the reason lies in the parents.
Accordingly, if he takes someone else's thing without asking, then this adopted model of behavior is borrowed from the parents. Perhaps they once shared this with their family, and the child could hear it. Such a family, turning to a psychologist, and hoping for his help, is "shocked" because the root cause, it turns out, is in them. There is a strong psychological defense - denial, and most of them do not reappear with a specialist. It happens that due to the wrong behavior of the parents, the child is already cornered. This is due to the fact that he was constantly reproached and punished. You can't cope here on your own. You will have to contact a psychologist or even a psychotherapist, because the possibility of correction is still preserved.
Losing is a terrible disaster
Another situation is also widespread when, for example, in a game, a child loses and begins to blame anyone for this, but not himself. Let it be so for now. But, letting off steam, make the child look at himself from the outside, look for reasons in himself and find his own mistakes. There is no need to admit it, you just need to be honest with yourself and it needs to be explained. Maybe then you will notice changes in it.
You have to convince your child that playing is the same job and you have to work hard to win. Form such an attitude towards the game so that he does not get excited. You should not form his attitude, as in the well-known saying: "The main thing is not victory, but participation." You need to understand your child, reassure and convince that such situations are a frequent outcome. Make it clear that you feel his condition and share his bitterness.
Unfortunately, our children are spreading the Western trend, which is aimed at the fact that a person should be a leader. Because of this, nervousness is growing in their society. It is important to form the right attitude to both losing and winning.
Our main task is to support the child in any situation and help find the right solution. Share your experience and tell us how you found a way out. The main thing is that the child trusts his parents and is not afraid to talk about his failures.
