Convincing a teenager of something is an impossible task. At this age, children consider themselves old enough to make serious decisions. So that the child does not repeat the mistakes of his parents, they must become his best friends and explain the situation based on life experience.
Trusting relationship
There should be absolute trust and mutual understanding between teenagers and their parents, only in this case children will share their problems and listen to advice. Very often there are situations when adults see that their child makes mistakes that were once peculiar to them. To protect a teenager from possible problems, adults behave overly persistently, impose their opinions, try to manipulate, threatening to take away pocket money, etc. In fact, this approach is fundamentally wrong, since in adolescence, children react very sharply to criticism and infringement of their own rights. To help the child not step on the same rake, parents, first of all, should become friends for him, whose opinion he himself would like to hear. Usually, a trusting relationship between parents and children is formed at an early age, if their foundation was not "poured" in time, a teenager will never share his secrets and experiences with adults.
In order for a child to learn to trust his parents from childhood, you need to spend as much time with him as possible, communicate with his friends and not miss a single important moment in his life.
Where to start a conversation?
When trying to warn the child against possible troubles, parents should not start a conversation with a negative one. For example, if a teenager does not want to go to college, you should not say that he will not achieve anything in life and will be a failure, like his father. In this case, it is better to emphasize that at one time the parents made a mistake by refusing higher education, and that it would be very useful to them in life. In order not to be unfounded, several situations can be cited, for example, employers' refusal due to lack of a diploma, the impossibility of career growth, etc. It is also important to mention that adults, taught by bitter experience, would definitely go to university if it was possible to turn back the clock.
A conversation with a teenager should not be based on aggression and reproaches. Adults should tactfully point out his mistakes and warn against possible consequences.
Common mistakes
Wishing to warn a teenager against their own mistakes, parents often forget that he is no longer small and must independently make fateful decisions. Adults do not have to convince, they can only advise, warn, but not interfere in the turn of events, of course, if we are not talking about the health of the child. A person must learn not only from strangers, but also from his own mistakes, otherwise he will not be adapted to the outside world. Only by giving the child the opportunity to make full-fledged choice, parents will be able to prepare him for adulthood.
