Whether or not to help adult children is up to parents to decide. It is not always that grown-up children need material support, since some get married successfully (get married), but not all. Before you understand what your child is missing, you need to make a simple analysis of the life situation, and only then decide whether your help will not be superfluous.
Instructions
Step 1
Many young people who have matured and given birth to children cannot cope with their new responsibilities. You can help sit with your baby, bathe, and even put you to bed. But do everything unobtrusively, and if you are not asked to help, then it is better not to meddle with the young. There are times when parents help out of good intentions, but children take everything with hostility. But not everyone does this, many children, having started a family, want their parents to come more often.
Step 2
When a child decides to acquire a second education, but cannot because of worries about the baby, take these responsibilities upon yourself. After all, it is not enough to give birth to children, they need not only to be raised, but also to contribute to their career growth. It is very difficult to start everything from scratch, but with someone's help, everything is much easier. Many people became famous only thanks to the help of relatives and friends.
Step 3
If you notice that there is not enough money for a young family, then first think about how to give it. When there is nothing to eat, a certain amount is not enough to pay off a loan or repay a debt, then, of course, it is worth helping. In other situations, it is better not to give indulgence, as soon you may be asked for a loan all the time. And it is not always your child who is the initiator, more often their second halves begin to do it.
Step 4
All people need different help, it all depends on the specific situation. Some kids dream of an apartment or an expensive car, but if you can't help them get it, don't blame yourself. The financial side is not always important, children need to be supported morally. When a child is ill, you need to reassure him, and not give instructions, even if he stumbled in life.
Step 5
If you think that children should achieve everything themselves, then just watch what is happening from the sidelines. But when you see that you can help in something, do it. It is possible that a gentle push will help you get what you want. Be considerate of your children, even if they have grown up a long time ago.
