In adolescence, a person develops basic values and attitudes. Therefore, from the point of view of parents and adults, the problem of how to prevent adolescent aggressiveness from becoming a stable character trait, a habitual way of behaving and solving problems already in later, adult life, becomes especially important.
Information availability and dialogue
Explanatory and educational work on the part of the family and the school is very important. The correct reading circle, a selection of films, thematic lectures at school and conversations at home with parents help to shape the teenager's worldview, teach him to be tolerant, responsive, respect different points of view, and not resort to aggression as the only way to resolve the conflict.
Parents should come up with friendly advice, recommending and gently selecting and shaping, but not imposing books, articles on the child. It is important to discuss what he has read and seen in the family circle so that the teenager hears the parents' opinion not in the form of notations, but in the course of a dialogue, where he also has the opportunity to be heard and understood. In the same mild form, it is worth discussing events at school, problems and conflicts with peers.
Parents are a role model
But often adults are faced with the fact that comments and long educational conversations practically do not bring results. This is due to the fact that a teenager, in the process of realizing his individuality, begins to oppose himself to adults.
But, paradoxically, it is in adolescence that the example of parents is the most effective means of education. Excessive pressure on the child, the desire to suppress, excessive and unfair punishments - all this only more convinces the child of the "right of the strong", that is, that aggression and violence are the most effective ways of resolving conflicts.
If there is an atmosphere of trust and respect in the parental family, between the parents themselves and between the children; if adults show respect for the adolescent's opinion, which may not coincide with theirs, then the adolescent gains experience in the effective practice of finding a compromise and dialogue as an effective way of resolving disputes and conflicts. He does not just learn to find and offer such compromises, but this model is also transferred to him and to relationships with other people. Indeed, despite the adolescent rebellion, it is the model of communication adopted in the parental family that a person in most cases reproduces in his family, as well as a way of resolving conflicts and building relationships he “takes out” from relations with parents.
Therefore, the main way of upbringing a teenager is upbringing by example, when in practice he can be convinced of the correctness of the values and lifestyle of the parents, and as a supplement and support for such confidence, conversations, discussions and informing the teenager are needed.
