Olga and Sasha are the same age, they are 30. Married for 9 years. And everything seems to be fine with them: a decent job (both designers), a two-room apartment with an almost paid mortgage, a 3-year-old Mazda. The son is a first grader … But something began to disappear, and this “something” is the most important thing.
Instructions
Step 1
Someone calls it "the salt of being", someone - passion, someone - a life filled with emotions and impressions. When this "something" disappears, family relationships need a global reboot. They need to be refreshed, given impetus, and thereby strengthen the family. Let's try to figure out how to do this.
When couples come to the first consultation with a family psychologist, they are asked to confess what they really want: to keep the relationship or part with the least loss for themselves and their children. We will assume that you have spoken out in favor of marriage. Then let's get started.
Step 2
The first and foremost thing you need to do is realize that you are ready to live your whole life with your partner, at least in the current state of affairs. Moreover, it is much easier to declare this in the heat of the moment than a balanced answer "yes".
After you realize that the person next to you is the dearest and most beloved, everything will become much easier. You have nowhere to go and there will be no need to run, look for a better life and happiness beyond the "seven seas".
Step 3
The next task is to unite interests. This is possible even if you are too different. After all, for some reason, you chose each other. Go to the movies, go hiking, dance. Draw, build, walk the dog. Travel, swim, lie on the couch. Anything, if only you were fun and interesting with each other.
And you should also have a common goal. Suitable for both household (to make repairs, build a summer cottage), and highly spiritual (to know God, to find the meaning of life). A prerequisite is that the goal should truly inspire you, interfere with sleep at night and force you to constantly be in dialogue with each other.
