Most of all, young parents are concerned about the organization of warm and friendly relations in the family between children. Not only that the parents themselves have not yet gotten stronger in the relationship, but children are already appearing who are calling for great responsibility, provision, love and care.
And when there are several children, it becomes much more difficult to teach them to love their family, friends, themselves, to respect people, to be independent, to help others. Here, try to bring up one as a whole person, and when there are two children, you can generally go crazy.
But, in fact, not everything is so difficult and sad. First of all, if you have a good relationship with your husband or wife, then you are setting the most important example for your children. They see love, care for each other and tenderness, adopt these qualities and use them in life.
But sometimes quarrels and misunderstandings arise in relations between children. Conflicts can be small, but they can turn into big disagreements, especially when you have a boy and a boy or a girl and a girl. Then there are often problems of equality of children in the family, love for them and attention.
The moment of equality of children must be carefully monitored, love must be given the same, in fact, attention too. You can never make it clear to any of the children that one is loved more, because he is better. No matter what: physical, moral, intellectual abilities. If you somehow emphasize the superiority of one child over the second, then some of them will have the foundations of self-rejection, which afterwards can develop into an inferiority complex, which is very difficult to remove.
Therefore, control your words and emotions, love children equally, give an equal amount of care and your warmth. Spend a lot of time with all the children, do not scold them, but explain everything in an accessible form, then you will have a friendly family.
