A comfortable home is a home to which you want to return after work, in which harmony and comfort reign. To achieve this, it is necessary to clearly distribute responsibilities so that unnecessary grievances and omissions do not arise, which subsequently turn into quarrels and misunderstandings.
Necessary
- - Operating schedule;
- - the book "You and Your Family. A Guide to Personal Growth", V. Satir, 2000;
- - the book "The beginnings of family life. Man and woman", A. I. Kochetov, A. A. Loginov, 1989.
Instructions
Step 1
Divide responsibilities into loved ones and unloved ones. Create a separate schedule for your unloved responsibilities. This does not mean that in the future you will have to adhere to it strictly (if one of the spouses is sick, then the other temporarily takes over all the housework), but until your life is settled, separation is necessary.
Step 2
If you live in an apartment with your parents, agree whether you are doing housework in general around the house or are only responsible for the cleanliness and order in your room, whether you will be responsible for cooking or it will become the responsibility of the mother-in-law (mother-in-law).
Step 3
Children can also be involved in household chores. Usually young children perceive this as a joy and a holiday, for them any help to their parents brings pleasure. Ask your kid to put toys down - he will definitely cope with this. There will be little sense from such help, but he will be happy. Over time, your baby will help you more and more, and will be able to show independence. Do not forget to say that help is very necessary and important for you. Praise your baby for any, even the smallest and insignificant help. He will appreciate it.
Step 4
Forget about words like "must", "need", "must" - this is a direct road to the emergence of a negative association with household chores. Remember, living together is not hard labor, where you have to do a lot yourself, where it seems that your opinion is not taken into account, where you should do everything the way your loved one wants. Everything should be based on mutual assistance and agreement.
Step 5
If you remember that common work helps bring family members closer and makes them a real family, then in the future, doing household chores together will bring you pleasure.
