The eternal question is what and how to make the child grow up obedient? Really a simple question, but turning this into reality is not so easy. It seems that smart, well-read parents should have well-bred and obedient children, but even these factors do not always play a positive role. It is possible to raise a good person in a child, but initially you need to teach him obedience.
Our flimsy arguments make children into the habit of not having to obey adults. Of course, this is not the fault of the children, but ours. The demands of adults should sound clear and with a calm note in the voice. The child should understand that if there was a phrase that uncleaned toys will be thrown away, then they should disappear. That is, he must react: if it was said to clean the room, then it is necessary to clean. The fear of losing their favorite things pushes them to a lot.
Naturally, the sooner you start upbringing, the easier it will be in the future. Starting from the age of six months, when a child eats and takes a spoon or favorite foods under dictation, he already involuntarily obeys and does what his parents tell him.
There must be a game of encouragement. This is when the baby is playing, and the mother takes out a cookie and says: “Whoever comes running faster will get something tasty,” of course, the main condition must be that the child does not have easy access to his favorite sweets. He must understand that apart from an adult, he will not be able to get it in any way.
If the child is capricious, and the parents really have no time to do it, play or do what he wants, then the parents' task is to stop responding to his requests. Try to explain to the kid that adults sometimes have important things to do, and they cannot be distracted, but he is already an adult and independent, therefore he can play himself.
A grown-up child, already at the call of his parents, should come, knowing that it is so necessary, and not in order to receive sweetness. At an older age, he must have his own personal responsibilities, which he must fulfill not only at the request of the parent, but because he is obliged to do so. It must develop independence.
A teenager must have responsibility. To experience it fully, he must learn to behave like an adult. To hold accountable for what he was instructed to, to monitor the fulfillment of duties with younger brothers and sisters. The price for a mistake is different and the child must understand that failure to comply is followed by punishment.
