In the nursery group, children mostly play with toys, and not with each other, so there are no problems in communication. But in the preparatory group, the situation is different. Children spend a lot of time together, communicate, participate in joint games. There are situations when children tell their parents about their unwillingness to attend kindergarten. Why might this situation arise?
First, it depends on the climate in the child's family. If everything is good in the family, then, as a rule, the child is very sociable, active and friendly. If the situation in the family is the opposite, then the child is withdrawn and unsociable. Then you should start by building relationships between family members, and you need to communicate with the child. It is necessary to find out the reasons for his reluctance to go to kindergarten and explain to him why it is necessary.
Secondly, there are leaders in any team. Often, children try to be friends and look up to good peers to whom educators can express sympathy. In this case, the child may have a bad relationship with such leaders, or he is unable to make friends with them. It is worth explaining to the child that relations can improve over time and praise him in those matters that he does well. Perhaps advise him to show his skills in kindergarten, so that he can make friends with other children.
Has the situation changed? Then it's worth talking to the teacher. If the group is large, it can be difficult for a kindergarten worker to control aggressive and arrogant behavior of children. This is part of his duties, but is done whenever possible.
Alternatively, it is possible to communicate with the parents of the child who offends the baby. Ask them to talk to their child.
It will be good if from an early age the child will communicate with children of his own age: siblings or cousins. Then it will be easier for him to find a common language with children in kindergarten, because he will already have communication skills, a certain model of behavior will be developed.
But we must not forget that conflict situations cannot be avoided. It would be better to explain to the child that every and sometimes rude communication or refusal of friendship should not be taken seriously in life, but should close our eyes to it. After all, all people are different, with their own characteristics. The sooner he understands this, the easier it will be for him to further build relationships in the team.
