Rendering assistance to orphans is one of the main directions of work of the state social policy. Orphans constitute a special category of children who need a special approach. One of the important factors in successful work with such children is care and mutual understanding.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, you need to remember that an orphan child, like any other person, needs mutual understanding. It is possible that the first time you meet your child will behave unacceptably rude. Do not pay attention to this, treat this fact with tolerance. To calm anger and negativity, a couple of questions should be asked. They can be of the following nature: why are you being rude, what benefit do you have from this, why are you being rude to me. In most cases, the child begins to realize that you are favorably disposed towards him. However, it may take a long time for him to accept this thought. Initially, the child may avoid contact with you, as the sudden abundance of attention and understanding can frighten him off. At the same time, sooner or later, a person realizes that there is nothing wrong with this manifestation of care.
Step 2
It is very important to understand exactly what problems are oppressing the child. Orphans are surrounded by very meager living conditions. The entire social environment of the child does not go beyond the orphanage and its inhabitants. This affects thinking, its attitude to various things. To identify certain problems, it is necessary to make a sincere conversation with the child. This can only be achieved through comfortable psychological conditions. Retire with him in the office. It is important that the child understands that no one can interfere with your conversation.
Step 3
Any antisocial behavior on the part of orphans can be justified as revenge on the world. If the child has committed any bad deed, do not expect clear explanations from him about why he did it. Every incomprehensible action on the part of a child can be deciphered as a cry for help. Sometimes it is better for the child to vent their emotions through negative behavior rather than keeping them in themselves. If the child cannot speak out, cannot share intimate, this will most likely lead to depression. It is also worth remembering that orphan suicides account for a large proportion. Each of these cases is the result of the fact that the person was not heard and understood.
Step 4
When talking with orphans, try to talk about their interests and hobbies as often as possible. Try to raise your child's self-esteem through praise and encouragement. Show your child that you value and respect him, that you are able to support him in difficult times. It is this approach that will help achieve mutual understanding on both sides.
