Children without parents are usually branded with an orphanage. This means that in society they look at such people with pity and apprehension, not believing that they can really achieve something in life. No joke - according to statistics, about 40% (!) Of graduates of orphanages in Russia embark on a criminal path. On the other hand, everyone knows some orphanages, in which they try to surround the little ones with almost maternal affection and care.
Mom, what am I going to do?
There can be a great many reasons why a child ends up in an orphanage. Some had their parents killed, most of them were deprived of parental rights for drunkenness or abuse, some were simply abandoned. The task of the state, with which it copes with varying degrees of success, is the constant support, socialization and education of these children.
Children's homes, like kindergartens and schools, can be different. Some of them really resemble a prison - it already depends on the teaching staff. For the most part, nannies, educators, orphanage teachers really do their best to give these children love and affection, but if the human heart can easily accommodate 30, 50, 100 children, then there is simply not enough time for everyone. And for this reason, raising children turns into a conveyor belt.
Psychologists say that any child abandoned by parents, no matter how small they are, is a victim of severe psychological trauma that can no longer be healed.
It turns out like this: up to 4 years old, the baby is in the Baby House, where he already has friends, where he gets used to the nannies and educators. Then he is transferred to an orphanage - and he has to get to know the children again, get used to the local order and the new teaching staff. Often after that, at the age of 7, the child enters a boarding school, where an additional division into senior and junior classes can occur. Of course, any child goes through approximately the same stages of socialization, but the fact is that after kindergarten, school, college, he comes home to his mother in the evening. And these children have nowhere to go - and each time they have to start all over again at such a young age. But that's just one problem.
Mom, how will I live?
Another is that children from orphanages live in a confined space. In this regard, orphanages are really like a prison - they have their own laws, there is a special life, and then, when the children grow up and find themselves in the "big world", they simply do not know how to behave. In addition, according to the law, orphanage workers have no right to force children to work, including, say, helping in the kitchen. And then a graduate of an orphanage, having received his legal apartment from the state, will not know how to clean it and how to cook dinner for himself. Few will know how to make a living. Hence the huge percentage of criminals.
10% of graduates of orphanages receive higher education and find a worthy place in life.
That is why in all institutions where children without parents are brought up, it is believed that a child is always better in a family - native, foster, foster - than in an orphanage. The orphanage is not a prison. But he never makes anyone happy either.
