Many people, especially at a young age, do not know how to distinguish love from falling in love. Love is a deep, powerful feeling based on emotional attachment and sexual attraction. Falling in love is euphoric, but short-term, and does not always give rise to long-term relationships. How to understand whether you love a person or just feel a feeling of love for him?
Instructions
Step 1
Analyze the feelings and emotions you are experiencing. At first, it will be quite difficult to do this, because a person in love is overwhelmed with violent positive emotions, he is in a state of euphoria, which can abruptly be replaced by sadness and melancholy, if the feelings are not mutual, or something in the relationship is not going the way you want.
Step 2
Evaluate soberly where the happiness and convenience of your partner is for you. A person in love most often thinks about himself, about what is good for him with his beloved, but bad for one. Real strong feelings, unlike falling in love, make you think first of all about the happiness, convenience, well-being of your beloved.
Step 3
Notice how you behave if your partner is having difficulties and problems. Are you always ready to help him by postponing important matters for later? A person in love is sometimes selfish. His euphoria is noticeably reduced when problems arise in the relationship, or a loved one needs help. Love is tested by trials, difficulties, problems through which partners go together.
Step 4
Distance and time are great ways to test your senses. This does not mean that you should stop communicating with the object of your feelings for no reason. But if a situation arises that he or you need to go far away for a while, do not be sad. Know that true love will withstand any separation, and if feelings are superficial, then sooner or later they will subside with frequent meetings.
Step 5
Think about the sincerity of your feelings if you are overwhelmed by too violent emotions. This is especially true for young people. Sometimes it happens that, being rejected, young men and women fall into severe depression and even think about suicide. The reason for this is not at all unhappy love, but a contrived love, similar to intoxication. One does not die for the sake of true love; one lives for it.
Step 6
Try to look for flaws in your loved one. Even if you do not see them, they are still there, just like other people. Ask a loved one to help you in this matter. Falling in love is characterized by the fact that you do not see your partner's shortcomings. If you notice negative traits of the other half, but are willing to put up with them and help correct them, then this indicates that you are experiencing stronger feelings.
Step 7
Remember that love is not a feeling that you don't have to work on. Love must be cherished and preserved, improving relations with a dear person. Love can be compared to working on yourself and on your feelings. If you are ready to connect your life with your beloved forever, accepting and respecting not only him, but also his relatives, his hobbies and hobbies, his merits and demerits, then we can congratulate you, you are experiencing a deep, strong and a feeling that ennobles the soul.
