By getting married, a man and a woman swear to each other in love and fidelity. Unfortunately, not a single married couple, even the seemingly strongest and most prosperous, is immune from treason. For example, a wife suddenly finds out that her husband has a mistress. The first and most natural reaction is shock, tears, anger. Some women in a similar situation immediately file for divorce. But there are wives who are not in a hurry with such a categorical decision, hesitate, think, and not try to save the family.
Instructions
Step 1
"Do not judge, lest you be judged yourself." If the woman, for example, is a Christian believer, she can convince herself to forgive her husband as follows. First, when they get married in church, the couple swore an oath to be together in joy and sorrow, despite any trials, "until death do part." A husband's betrayal can well be imagined as a test sent down to test the strength of their love and marriage bonds. Secondly, the Christian religion teaches you to be patient and condescending to your neighbor, to forgive his shortcomings, mistakes and even offenses inflicted on you. In a word, "The Lord endured, and he ordered us!"
Step 2
“But he didn’t stay with her, so I’m better.” A good and effective way to forgive is to blame all (or almost all) of the blame on the lover. The wife may well convince herself with such arguments: what to do, the husband is not iron, a living man, made of flesh and blood. Surely this shameless herself seduced him, so he could not resist. The main thing is that he did not abandon his family, did not go to another woman. It means that he still loves his wife, for him she is the best.
Step 3
"I guess I'm also to blame." An absolutely surefire way is to look at your behavior from the outside. In the overwhelming majority of cases, the wife will find something to reproach herself for. Indeed, it very rarely happens that only one side is guilty of treason. Having convinced herself that in what happened there is also her share of guilt (even if it is small), the spouse will easily come to a logical conclusion: then one should show generosity and forgive. And for the future, it is necessary to draw all the necessary conclusions, to make corrections in behavior.
Step 4
"What about children without a father?" This is a very strong argument if there are young children in the family. But, of course, he should not be considered as decisive if, along with the betrayal, the husband led an asocial lifestyle, for example, he abused alcohol or drugs, used physical violence against his wife and children. What can such a father teach children? In this case, it is better to leave as soon as possible.
