It is very easy to lose trust, and its return is a rather slow and painful process. The emotional wound inflicted by betrayal does not heal soon. But this does not mean that everything is already lost. If you still love the person and want to be together, if you are ready to start all over again, you should think about what needs to be done to regain this faith.
Instructions
Step 1
First, try to honestly ask yourself the question: have you forgiven the person who cheated on you? If you think that this is an unforgivable sin, then sooner or later your relationship can completely go wrong. Maybe in this case you should just leave? If you firmly decided that you have forgiven your loved one for his betrayal, then be consistent: forgive him in your soul and throw this problem out of your head. Do not poison your life, neither yourself, nor him. Try to rebuild your relationship, without looking back at the mistakes of the past.
Step 2
Most likely, you are still "burned" by resentment, it is hard and painful for you. Try to reduce these feelings by speaking out. Calmly, without reproach or accusation, but frankly talk about what happened with your loved one. Look for a joint way out of this situation. It often happens that it is in such situations that people honestly speak out about what worries them, what they feel for each other, what the problems are and what they would like to change. It can bring you closer together.
Step 3
Without justifying the act of your half, try to understand and analyze the reasons that led to the betrayal. Understand that they are not at all in external circumstances and not accidental. Bitter as it may be, admit to yourself that you, too, are guilty of what happened. Perhaps you began to pay less attention to your loved one or, conversely, to your own person. Think if you have changed outwardly and have not stopped caring for yourself and dressing beautifully? Or have you abandoned all your hobbies, do not develop and become a "gray", uninteresting person? When you correctly identify the reason for the cooling of your relationship, try to take action to correct your mistakes.
Step 4
Learn to love your partner for who they are. After all, you do not assume that he is perfect and has no flaws? Everyone has drawbacks, but you fell in love with him for something? Try to surround him with your tenderness and attention, be affectionate and do not skimp on praise and gratitude if the person deserves it. Do not hesitate: if comfort, love and warmth reign in your home, and you want to return to it.
Step 5
Try to be together for as long as possible. For example, organize leisure activities together, but in such a way that both of you are interested. Let the person see your merits.
