Obsession causes a lot of trouble on both sides. The person who is imposed feels unnecessary, embarrassed, tension appears in the relationship, sometimes it can lead to quarrels. The other side needs space, so it’s helpful to stop being intrusive.
Instructions
Step 1
The most important thing is that you understand your obsession and want to get rid of it. Realizing your problem, you have a chance to get rid of this bad habit and make life easier for yourself and those around you.
Step 2
Start controlling yourself. Watch yourself and your desires carefully, and when you once again want to impose on another person, stop yourself. Understand that sometimes people want to spend time away from you, do not consider this an insult or an attempt to distance yourself. It can be helpful to spend time apart to appreciate the moments together.
Step 3
Find something to do. Very often people impose themselves on others just because they do not know what to do. Take up your hobbies, devote time to your hobbies, self-development. You can read a book or watch a new movie. When you feel that you are starting to intrude, step back and do what you love.
Step 4
Don't call too often. Some people think that obsession only manifests itself when spending time together, but even constant calls and SMS messages can be annoying and perceived as an obsession. If you cannot control yourself and not call, take a tariff with expensive rates. Then you will spend significantly less time talking. When the habit of constantly calling the guy disappears, return the old tariff, but know the measure in calls.
Step 5
Spend time with your friends. If you don't have enough communication, meet up with your girlfriends, have fun and have fun with them, go shopping and discuss the latest news. Spend your days with different people so you don't get imposed on one person.
Step 6
Become more confident in yourself. Very often, obsession arises from self-doubt and fear of losing a boyfriend. But constant calls and the demand for meetings will not benefit the relationship, you should raise your self-esteem, become independent and put the initiative in the hands of a man. The guy himself has to ask for a meeting and call, and you deprive him of this by taking on his role. Learn to enjoy life by yourself, and you can stop pushing people.
