Children definitely need praise. Parental approval provides not only psychological comfort for the child, but also good behavior. Praise a child in different ways, but many parents often make mistakes that need to be learned to avoid.
Often from parents you can hear only "clever" or "well done", of course, this is nice, but specifics are important for the correct development of the child, therefore, the praise should be expanded. If the child cleared up the dishes after eating or tidied up the room, he needs to be praised for this, in order not only to improve mood and self-esteem, but also to make it clear that parents expect such actions from their child in the future.
Another common mistake is reproachful praise. If a child has done something very well, it is inappropriate to praise him as follows: "You did great today, you can, when you want, not like last time." Such a compliment both raises self-esteem and offends at the same time. You need to praise in such a way that only a positive feeling remains, and not a hint that everything was done very badly last time.
In no case should you belittle the dignity of another person when praising: "Your drawing is much better than that of your classmate (friend, sister, brother)." If a child competes, he should only do it with himself, each time improving the results. In this case, the belittling of another child will not occur, which can lead to an incorrect construction of relations between your child and peers. Praise should be so that the child understands that his today's achievement is one step ahead of what he managed to achieve yesterday.
Another erroneous tactic is the unwillingness to praise the child, explaining this by the fact that he will become arrogant and begin to perform his duties poorly. Correct approval is always stimulating, and its absence not only lowers self-esteem, but also discourages the child from doing anything. Lack of praise devalues all positive actions of the child, and this leads to the fact that he stops doing them. In this case, it is possible to ensure that bad behavior appears, with which the child will try to compensate for the lack of attention from the parents.
