The wounds from the resentment healed, the mental pain subsided, you were finally able to forget the once loved one who broke off relations with you and left. But then the most unexpected begins to happen: he reappears in your life. Why do abandoners sometimes return?
Various reasons can induce the return of someone who recently (or long ago) dumped you. More often than not, the person who quit just realizes that they made a serious mistake by breaking off the relationship with you.
For example, he could go on a "free voyage", but never found himself a partner suitable for a relationship. As the saying goes, good is seen at a distance, and only looking back at those harmonious relationships that were between you and comparing them with the current loneliness, the person who left you can make a logical choice in your favor. Perhaps he was tired of waiting for love. And he could understand that he could not fall in love with anyone else. Except for you, of course.
If you are dumped for someone else, it is not at all necessary that this “someone” will be better than you. Very often, men and women return to their ex, because their subsequent relationship did not please them at all. The explanation for this is elementary - the initial stage of new novels is always uncomfortable. Two personalities will stubbornly confront each other, entering into conflicts, until they "get used to it", they will not come to compromises that suit both. “Why strain and make efforts on yourself, if there is a person with whom joint comfort has already been established?” - this question may be asked by many. And, again, they will come to put up with the former half.
Sometimes they return because they cannot forget the joint sex or they cannot find a more suitable partner for sexual satisfaction. This is especially true for men for whom sex is one of the main values in life. A man who abandoned him could miss the home comfort that his loving wife regularly organized for him. A delicious dinner, freshly washed and ironed clothes, polished shoes, a beautiful home environment - you can quickly get used to all these amenities. A woman who broke off an alliance often decides to return to an abandoned man because of material difficulties that are difficult for her to solve. The one who quit could return, having learned about the increase in the status, material wealth of the former partner. All these examples characterize a purely mercantile approach to relationships, but, alas, it takes place in modern society.
Thus, there can be a great many reasons for returning to an abandoned partner. And not all of them grow out of true love for the once abandoned person.
