A quarrel always has negative consequences for both parties. However, quarrels in any relationship cannot be avoided. If you have not found a common language with your best friend, then the moment has come when you need to correctly assess the situation and try to restore friendly relations. Fate gives us the best friends, so you shouldn't be scattered with such people.
What to do if you have a falling out with your best friend
In a quarrel, the maximum release of negative emotions occurs. Of course, it's best not to get personal. So you will show not only the level of your bad manners, but also greatly offend the person. It is impossible to bring words back, so try to control yourself as much as possible. When you've already had a falling out with your best friend, try to iron out the consequences. Reconciliation takes place in several stages.
The stage of emotional intensity
An increased emotional background after a quarrel can persist for a long time. Basically, it is associated with negative emotions in relation to a friend, conviction that one is right and the inability to objectively assess the situation. During this period, try to calm down and not jump to conclusions. In no case should you call in emotional agony and prove something. This will only aggravate the situation and there will be practically no chance of reconciliation. A friend may also call you to sort things out. In this case, do not pick up the phone. At the stage of emotional tension, someone should be wiser and this will help to correct the current situation in the future.
Waiting phase
This is the most important stage, since time puts everything in its place and allows you to soberly assess the situation. The time frame can vary. Someone needs a week to come to their senses after a quarrel, and someone is ready to go to reconciliation in a day. It is important to understand the reasons that led to the quarrel. Perhaps the conflict between you and your friend was brewing for a long time or happened unexpectedly for both of you. One way or another, remember all the details of what happened and draw conclusions. Try to take the position of your friend and understand why what he wanted to convey to you. Simulate a conflict situation in your head, look at it with a cold mind. This approach contributes to the intelligent search for a solution to the problem.
Reconciliation phase
If your friend hasn't called yet, then it's worth taking the first step. Call and make an appointment. Speak calmly and without emotion. Explain that both of you have had time to think and that it is important for you to maintain your friendship. When the meeting happens, try not to talk a lot. Discuss only the most important details and come to general conclusions. Think about what you need to do to make these situations happen less often. If you behave the right way, the person will be in the mood for constructive dialogue that will only strengthen your friendship. It is possible that the friend will not be ready for the conversation and will be honest about it. Then you should not demand a clarification of the relationship, this can lead to a new quarrel. Let the time pass. Give up your own selfishness and wait calmly.
