A person experiences loneliness hard. People are drawn to their own kind in order to share experiences with them, to discuss life events, joys and sorrows. However, in modern society, the number of single people is growing. It is difficult for many to find like-minded people, to step over the internal barrier that interferes with communication. How do you find friends or a girlfriend?
Instructions
Step 1
Be where there are people. If you do not live in the desert, underground or in the Arctic Circle, then the chances of making friends increase to one hundred percent. Be prepared for a person to appear in your life. Keep an eye on the people around you. Be interested in others, smile, express positive emotions.
Step 2
Attend interest groups. Take a workshop to learn something new. Surely there you will find like-minded people and friends.
Step 3
Avoid frames that you can deliberately or unconsciously set. For example, such restrictions can be age, presence or absence of a spouse and children, money wealth, gender, specific hobby.
Step 4
Invite people into your life, communicate. If the person is interesting, try to strike up a conversation, a relationship. Do not be afraid to take a step forward, you will not lose anything, but you will gain a friend, girlfriend or experience. You can always stop a relationship if it is uncomfortable or uninteresting. Be guided by your gut feelings about whether to maintain a friendship or not.
Step 5
Don't place all your expectations on one person. A friend is not a dad and mom, who can give a child almost anything he asks for. With some of your friends it is good to go to the pool, with another - to walk in the park or attend art studio courses. All people are different, not everyone can have a heart-to-heart talk. Accept the possibility that your friend may not understand or agree with your point of view. This broadens the horizons, improves the ability to look for arguments, listen to the interlocutor and his arguments.
Step 6
Accept people for who they are. You probably have features or disadvantages, friends have them too. Accept this beforehand. Look for the good in people, not the bad. Emphasize what you like about your friend, why it is cool and pleasant to communicate with him. Sweep away negative thoughts.
Step 7
Be interesting. If at first it is difficult to find a topic of conversation, prepare for the meeting in advance: read a book, watch an interesting program, practice telling anecdotes. In order for the communication to be interesting, create joint occasions. Ask what exactly the person likes to do, where to go, where to spend time, and offer him your company.
