People meet, people fall in love … But it so happens that a person whose object of desire is you is completely uninteresting to you. However, you cannot muster the courage and tell him about it. Choose the most diplomatic way of refusal, so as not to make the guy feel resentment or even an outburst of hatred towards you.
Instructions
Step 1
Choose the right time to talk. You can cause a lot of negative emotions, such as rage and anger, if you do not start a conversation on time and fall under the "hot hand". You should not start such a conversation if the young man is angry, annoyed, very tired after a hard day at work, or if he has problems with friends. Your refusal can be the last straw that overflows the cup of patience, and all the negative accumulated under the weight of problems will pour out on you. It is better to choose another time to sort out the relationship. This is an important condition in order to refuse the guy so that he does not take offense.
Step 2
Don't go to extremes. Do not be rude and do not be rude to the young man - this will only increase the irritation from an unpleasant conversation, and there it is not far from a scandal. You should not offend a person - he is not to blame for the fact that he liked you. In the event that the guy himself begins to be openly rude to you, you should cool his ardor with a couple of harsh phrases - do not let yourself be offended out of a desire to seem tactful if the interlocutor does not understand cultural communication. Excessive pity is also undesirable. Feeling the notes of pity in your voice, a young man can grab them like a lifeline, deciding that at least you have a little sympathy for him, but still there. Some men, knowing this property of the female psyche, from despair in such situations, begin to openly press on the feeling of pity, and even the maternal instinct to put you in an uncomfortable position and make it impossible to refuse him. Control your emotions during a conversation so that this situation does not arise.
Step 3
Explain to him that life does not end, and the light did not come down like a wedge on you. The guy should understand that besides you there are still a lot of girls who can become a worthy couple for him and cause him no less sincere feelings and that he will definitely meet his love. It is especially important to explain this to a fan if he is young and confuses a serious feeling with a light crush. It will also help to minimize negative emotions from your rejection.
