You have a serious relationship with a young man, you have been dating for a long time, you have already met all your relatives and took the application to the registry office. At this stage of the relationship, it is quite normal to call the husband's mother by her first name and patronymic. And then Mendelssohn's march thundered, a wedding ring is put on your finger, and you already enter your husband's house not as his girlfriend, but as your legal wife. Calling a mother-in-law by her first name and patronymic is somehow wrong, but calling her a mother has yet to work. How to be in such a situation?
It is quite easy for some girls to call their mother-in-law a mother, especially if they have good, family and trusting relationships, others understand that the mother-in-law is partly a stranger, so they can hardly call her mother, or even cannot at all.
Before calling a mother-in-law a mother, you need to make sure whether the husband's mother expects such treatment from the daughter-in-law. Here you will have to connect your beloved, let him seriously talk to the mother and find out what kind of treatment she is waiting for. If the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law develops, and the husband's mother treats the daughter-in-law as a daughter, then the girl may well turn to the second mother with a similar question on her own. This approach will make it clear to the mother-in-law that the daughter-in-law respects her, cares about her comfort and morale.
Here again you need to connect your spouse, let him talk to the parent and explain to her that the girl needs some time to get used to the new environment and new status.
Few people know that the mother-in-law - the ancients meant "their own blood." And women in the old days did not even think about how to call their husband's mother.