For a girl, breaking up with a loved one is a hard blow. Especially if she is abandoned without any explanations, claims, reproaches. Simply: "It's all over between us!", Or: "I don't need you anymore!"
A woman, especially an emotional, impressionable, at this moment feels as if the whole world is up in arms against her. Shock. Shock. Sincere misunderstanding: how could this have happened? And then, deep depression often sets in. And it’s also good if the abandoned girl doesn’t start looking for consolation in alcohol or, even worse, in drugs!
You should pull yourself together and understand: life does not end there! The fact that a particular guy did not appreciate her is his problem. There are quite enough good, decent guys in the world who can love her and make her happy. After all, the one who left the girl is not worth her tears and worries.
Yes, their relationship is over. He will no longer be around. But maybe this is just good for the girl? Now she has more free time, you can have plenty of conversation with family and friends, with girlfriends, go shopping, live for your own pleasure, finally! Find yourself some interesting hobby, go somewhere, see the world.
But what a girl should definitely not do is to constantly feel sorry for herself, to seek sympathy from her relatives and girlfriends. Of course they will regret it! Sincerely, from the heart. They will even cry with her, lamenting: oh, why are you so grief, oh, what all the peasants are bastards. As a result, the girl's depression will only worsen.
In addition, she should not "dig into herself" too actively, thinking: maybe she was also to blame? Yes, most likely it was, because a breakup very rarely happens due to the fault of only one side. But the guy could well try to explain with her, frankly say what exactly he doesn't like about her. Since he preferred to quit, it means that she was not very dear to him. Is it possible in this case to call him a loved one? Of course not! Then why are these remorse, self-criticism?
The girl needs to call on common sense for help and treat the breakup as an unpleasant, difficult, bitter, but very useful lesson. Such tests temper people, make them stronger and wiser. Of course, you should take into account your mistakes so as not to repeat them in the future. When she meets someone who truly loves her, with all her advantages and disadvantages.
