Conflicts between daughters-in-law and mother-in-law happen quite often. It is especially difficult for two women to get along in the same apartment, because in this case it is almost impossible to ignore each other.
Instructions
Step 1
It is difficult for two hostesses to peacefully coexist in one apartment. Each woman has her own ideas about cleanliness, comfort and the need for household chores. For example, the mother-in-law thinks that it is necessary to wash the floors every day, but the daughter-in-law is enough 2 times a week. One woman cannot imagine a dinner without 3 courses, while the other follows her figure, does not eat after 6 pm and introduces her husband to a healthy lifestyle. Do bed linen need to be ironed? The mother-in-law certainly does this, but the daughter-in-law does not want to waste time on this.
Step 2
Each of the women has her own view of the household and it is uncomfortable for her to live by someone else's rules. Therefore, domestic conflicts are almost inevitable. The mother-in-law often wants to teach her daughter-in-law to do everything “right” out of the best intentions. A young wife perceives advice as criticism, discontent and an invasion of personal space.
Step 3
Often the mother-in-law interferes not only with the management of the household, but also with the personal affairs between the son and his wife. Some mothers speak impartially about their daughters-in-law, and sometimes they slander them and spoil the relationship in the son's family. The mother-in-law wants her child to have an ideal wife, so there is always a reason to criticize her daughter-in-law. Some mothers are not ready to realize that their son has already grown up and has the right to live his own life. In turn, the daughters-in-law, tired of the mother-in-law's interference in all the affairs of the family, often put the husband before the choice: "Either I, or she."
Step 4
Often, mother and wife compete with each other for the love of their son and husband. Both require gifts no worse than he gave the second woman. At the same time, the mother-in-law may think that the son is overly indulging his wife, and the daughter-in-law thinks that the husband spends too much money from the family budget on his mother.
Step 5
When children appear in a young family, another reason for conflict arises. Over the past 20 years, the recommendations of pediatricians and psychologists for caring for babies have changed a lot. The mother-in-law, based on her experience, may suggest starting complementary foods from 3 months, giving the baby a pacifier, and feeding the newborn. Mom can only breastfeed the baby for up to six months, not give pacifiers and carry the baby in a sling that is alien to the older generation. Despite the fact that both women want the best for the baby, they can create an unbearable psychological atmosphere in the house, and this will affect, first of all, the child.
Step 6
Therefore, more and more families seek to start living separately from their parents. If young people do not have the means to buy a home, they move to a rented apartment.
