Although a child is born with certain personality traits and intellectual inclinations, basically the formation of his character takes place in the family and directly depends on the parenting style chosen by the parents.
Psychologists distinguish between 4 main parenting styles.
The authoritarian style is characterized by categorical requirements and intransigence even in the smallest detail. Unconditional obedience is required of the child. His own desires and interests are not taken into account. The kid is almost never praised, but constantly scolded.
Depending on natural inclinations, children react to such a dictatorship in different ways: if a child has a strong character by nature, he begins to rebel from an early age, which manifests itself in constant whims. In adolescence, such children become aggressive, rude. A child with a gentle character closes in on himself, tries to pay as little attention to himself as possible, turns into a weak-willed, gray personality.
The liberal style is the exact opposite of the authoritarian one. Here the child is the center of the universe, around which the whole family life revolves. All his whims are fulfilled immediately. Children raised in this way are disobedient, aggressive, not adapted to life. They cannot get along in a children's team, they are a burden to strict school requirements and discipline. As a rule, this negatively affects learning: even if a child was perfectly able to read and write before school, he has poor grades, the main reason for which is a constant feeling of discomfort.
Indifferent style is, in fact, the absence of any upbringing. Adults do not take care of the child at all, reducing their functions only to the satisfaction of his physiological needs. From an early age, a child is forced to solve his own problems and look for answers to his own questions. Such a child often receives parental love and attention in monetary terms. In such a relationship, there is no emotional connection between the parents and the child, the child feels lonely, growing up, becomes distrustful and suspicious.
Democratic style is considered to be the most acceptable. Parents encourage the child's independence, respect his opinion, but, at the same time, demand that certain rules be followed. Relationships are based on collaboration. Adults and children are united by common goals and objectives. The child, to the best of his ability, solves the problems that arise, but he knows that there are always people nearby who love him and will come to his aid.
