Sometimes our relationship with a soul mate does not withstand the hardships and troubles of life. In such cases, the couple decides to divorce. And how will your common child react to this turn of events? After all, for him, the divorce of his parents is a turning point in his entire life.
Of course, the divorce of parents is not at all the end of the world and not an apocalypse. However, the whole world of a child is his family, the closest and closest people are his parents. Mutual reproaches, resentments, and often hatred, which are spilled out on the child, cannot bring him any positive emotions. When parents file for divorce, the child feels his own helplessness especially acutely. How can you help him get through this moment with the least loss?
How to behave with a child
It is incredibly important for parents to show that the divorce is not the child's fault. Even if the child does not show it in any way, the feeling of guilt haunts him constantly. It is necessary to talk openly with the child, discuss with him all the issues that bother him. It is important for you to show that mom and dad have not stopped loving him, that the child will still be surrounded by the love and attention of adults. At first, you need to spend as much time as possible with such conversations. Even if your child does not actively show you this, now he needs you more than ever. When making decisions about how your life will now be built, it is necessary to take into account the opinion of the child. You can always come to a compromise solution and find a convenient and comfortable option for all family members. Try to make arrangements for the child to spend the same amount of time with one and the other parent. Explain to your child that he or she should not stop loving one parent because of the divorce. Whatever they are, parents always think about him, love and miss him.
How to behave with a child
It is categorically impossible to constantly interfere with the child in personal conflicts, the child will inevitably face your disagreements, but such moments must be minimized. Your baby should be sure that his dad and mom are the best in the world. It is very difficult in a situation where grandparents do not adhere to this opinion. It is important to explain to the baby that this is just an insult, which does not mean at all that his parents are better or worse. You can not show aggression with a child, speak negatively about each other. It is better not to communicate with a child at all than to show such a model of relationship. After all, when the child grows up, he will project exactly this on his relationship in the future. In a divorce situation, calmness, patience and the ability to talk with your child will be most useful to you. Otherwise, the child will adopt your aggressive behavior and will behave in the same way with others, thinking that such aggressive behavior is the norm.
