Because of the different responses to stress relief, men and women have different needs after sex. Women want to talk and share their emotions, while men want to eat and sleep.
When psychologists conducted a survey among men, everyone agreed that all the phrases below should not be said, not only after sex, but in general if you have plans to continue the relationship. Men are gentle and vulnerable creatures. They will not show their emotions, but any spoken phrase can deeply hurt and humiliate. A woman can throw something casually and not even think that she can offend. Therefore, be extremely careful.
And it's all?
There should not be any negative assessments after the act of love. Forget the phrase like "is that all?", "Somehow not very", "and what is so fast?". Even if in fact it was completely sluggish, it is not worth talking about it. You can reproach your man for anything: that he earns little, his arms do not grow from his shoulders at all, he does not know how to drive a car, eats like an elephant, loafers, does not give flowers - yes, in anything! Just don't say that he can't satisfy you.
Let's
Never ask for a continuation right away. Even if you really want to. After sex, a man needs about fifteen minutes to catch his breath, to recover. Perhaps have a cup of coffee, and at least take a shower. If you press with the demand for continuation, it is unlikely that there will be. Instead of continuing, there will be only irritation.
You feel good?
Some ladies immediately after orgasm ask: "Did you feel good with me?" The question is, at least, stupid. What do you want to hear in response if it was somehow not very good? What was bad? Everything can be understood without any questions. Just look at the expression on his face, listen to his breathing, look into his eyes. Anyway, get rid of the habit of chatting immediately after sex. Give the man 15 minutes of rest. And if he himself does not speak first, just be silent.
I have to run
It so happens that sex happens unplanned. Never jump up right after orgasm and don't say you need to run. Be sure to lie down a little, shut up. And then dress slowly and walk, be sure to give a goodbye kiss. If you run around like a scalded woman and dress screaming "I'm late," all bliss will evaporate.
Is everything ok
If a woman leaves the care of an unwanted pregnancy to a man, you should never ask questions about this immediately after sex. Do not ask if the condom survived, if it interrupted intercourse on time, if there was something on the sheets, etc. By the way, PPA is not a contraceptive. But this is by the way.
First sex
If you have sex with a young man you don't know, never ask if he will call. If necessary, he will call. If you don't need to … he didn't make you sleep with him, really. Such questions are irrelevant and sound like this is your last chance to make your life right. In general, it is better to avoid casual relationships so as not to waste your feminine energy in vain.
But my ex …
Never compare a real man to an ex if you don't want him to join their ranks. He is the one and only. And don't compare it, even if it's better. Just put yourself in his shoes. It is not pleasant when you are compared with someone.
Did you have a lot of women before me?
Make it a rule to never discuss past relationships. Not before sex, not after. The past is gone. No need to stir it up. And even more so, what does it matter to you how many there were “before”. It is important, after all, whether there will be someone "after".
And when we get married
Sex does not oblige a man to anything. And a woman, if she agrees to a premarital relationship, runs the risk of being just another “girl for a while,” for which one does not need to bear responsibility, from which he does not want children. Therefore, since you have agreed to such a relationship, do not bring up the topic of the wedding, at least immediately after sex. Discuss this later in a relaxed atmosphere over a cup of coffee. And, by the way, if you don't ask stupid questions and just keep quiet, enjoying the moment, you can get a marriage proposal. Because it is in these 15 minutes, when a man is covered with euphoria, he is ready for anything for you.
Buy me shoes
Despite the fact that a man is ready to do anything for you in the first fifteen minutes, there is no need to spoil the mood by begging for gifts. Be patient.
