Today, many experts are confident that the institution of the family throughout the civilized world is degenerating, despite the powerful state regulation of this sphere of life. Perhaps, ahead of humanity, a new round of collapse of human values awaits, which will be associated with the leveling of the significance of the so-called “social cell”. However, at present, traditionally oriented citizens are still trying to choose their wives and husbands.
The keeper of the hearth must meet certain requirements, without which the existence of such a serious structure as a family is impossible. Of course, numerous psychological works, as well as literary works of all directions and forms, as they say, "from the century" carry many thematic recommendations. However, it is important for a modern person to clearly define not the “color scale” of romantic reasoning with such concepts as, for example, “love” and “I’ll die without you,” but the rational kernel, which will serve as an irrefutable basis and indestructible principle of family affiliation.
At present, the cosmopolitan processes in the civilized world are developing in their complete opposite with the affirmation of family (tribal) values, which are maximally adapted precisely in the third world countries with their traditional attachments. All these cultures, focused primarily on religious soil, by their very definition cannot exist without strict rules, including legal norms governing family relations. However, the high dynamics of modern life in developed countries makes a person more selfish in this aspect of life. That is why today the relevance of the phrase “give birth to a son, build a house and grow a tree” has already been lost, which, as a monument to a passing era, can now only cause a smile.
In short, if you consider a family an unshakable value, then you need to clearly understand on what basis it should be built. And a married couple can act as the so-called "cornerstone". And, bearing in mind that the wife is the keeper of the hearth, then her choice should be given worthy attention.
Modern requirements for a spouse
It is important to understand that in order to choose a wife, a potential husband must first of all be guided by his own logic, and not such, for example, common reasons as “my mother likes her,” etc. Thus, the attitude of close people should always be considered secondary. And in general, this requirement for the future spouse should be combined with one phrase "loyalty of relatives." Moreover, this concept also includes such an aspect as motherhood.
So, the list of reasons why a woman can be fully considered a worthy candidate for the "position" of a wife is as follows.
The kinship of the mental organization. It manifests itself not in the obligatory identity of views on the main aspects of life, but in a principled approach to any problem. That is, it should not be fundamentally important for future spouses to love, for example, one color, weather, car brand, clothing style, region of residence or a theater group. It is much more relevant in this context to show a single evaluative principle. Here it is appropriate to focus on the so-called "life energy" or character traits. People with a similar temperament and an identical attitude to fundamental life situations are able to overcome any "joys and hardships", which is not at all necessary in other cases.
Single social segment. People from different walks of life will have to adapt to each other, which often leads to irreconcilable contradictions. It may only at first seem that love and the desire to be constantly inseparable are able to overcome any obstacles. However, the practice of life shows that after the period called "honeymoon" in the folk epic, the time for creative interaction comes. And it is here that those frictions that lead directly to rupture begin to manifest themselves.
External data. For many men, a woman does not begin with a deep inner world, and not even with eye-lakes, but with the characteristic elements of the figure and face. And we are not talking about the "golden ratio", but about those optical perceptions that make you dizzy, your heart beat fast, your legs give way, and you experience understandable symptoms in the lower abdomen. Perhaps "love at first sight" and should be considered a kind of anachronism from the era of romantically minded ancestors. However, even the more cynical and pragmatic modern generation of young people is capable of experiencing corresponding physiological changes in their bodies.
Libido. Whatever one may say, but the process of interaction of gender antipodes rests on natural, natural drives of different sexes. Therefore, a woman's sexuality will always be considered her most important weapon to attract male attention. Of course, relying on this quality as the only argument in this context is very frivolous. However, it makes no sense to reject it even in cases where a potential marriage is planned to be concluded for purely economic, political or legal reasons.
Age. You can never trust those people who claim that a significant age difference with the chosen one can bring some kind of renewal of physical and mental health. An always mature man with a young wife will not only look unnatural, but will also suffer rapid damage to his general condition. It makes no sense to deny the different life potential of people from different age groups. Even the difference of half a generation (fifteen years) should be considered as critical, not to mention more significant age parameters.
Taking into account this “rule of five”, you can never make a mistake in choosing a “woman of your dreams”. Moreover, the priority may vary, except for the first two items from the general list.
