How to extinguish a quarrel with your wife? This is an urgent question, since only very few men can not quarrel with their wives at all.
At the beginning of a quarrel, you need to try not to respond with anger to anger - you need to restrain yourself and take a short pause. Take in air, exhale slowly. Remember that this person next to me is my wife, I connected life with her, I love her and, most likely, the controversial issue is not worth the conflict.
This pause is a very important moment, it will allow you not to get into a quarrel and begin to control the situation. You need to calm down and minimize your first negative reaction.
Next, you need to clearly say to yourself that I am a man and I am stronger than a woman. I am able to be wise, I am the master of the situation, I am in control of the situation.
At this stage, it is important to continue to hold back from getting into an argument without letting yourself be pulled into it. To do this, you can, for example, smile - this can soften the situation, but this can be done only if it is appropriate, the context of the situation is important here; also, as a universal recipe, it is worth using simple silence - you need to silently listen to your wife, non-verbally confirming that you are listening carefully.
Further, when a woman has passed the peak of emotional stress, you need to find a way to yield to your wife, showing it this way - you need to agree with her. You can still be fundamentally against it, but it is important to agree with her opinion, confirm that you understand her, are ready to listen, respect her opinion.
In this concession, we show that we are strong. We do not reject her opinion, we do not go into conflict. We are ready to discuss. Next, you need to move on to a calm discussion of the problem.
Restraint, calmness, an offer to discuss the problem, yielding in a dispute, maximum benevolence - all this should give a result.
