Since the time when the Internet has firmly entered the life and everyday life of a huge number of people, such a specific phenomenon has arisen as love by correspondence. The number of virtual novels is growing day by day. We often hear that this phenomenon is unnatural, that it reduces the likelihood of a full-fledged relationship between a man and a woman. And what about the reality?
As a rule, people who are disillusioned with family life, or impressionable, shy, experiencing difficulties in communicating with other people, especially with representatives of the opposite sex, are prone to virtual novels on social networks.
In the first case, such love allows you to either make life brighter, get the emotions and compliments that are missing in real life, even if only in a virtual form, or reduce mental pain, resentment, disappointment after breaking up with a partner.
If married people have a virtual romance, they can keep the family together, which is very important. After all, a divorce is not always included in their plans!
In the second case, virtual love allows you to increase your self-esteem, feel self-confidence. And this is of great importance for people who find it difficult to communicate due to complexes. They often think that others are disapproving of them, waiting for their mistake to laugh. Therefore, any sign of attention, praise from an unfamiliar virtual interlocutor on a social network is very pleasant for them. Involuntarily, a desire arises to get to know this person better, to learn more about him. If praise, compliments from him continue, then feelings similar to love may well arise.
Even the most innocent compliment can be such a sign of attention, for example, a high assessment of a photograph or some kind of work (poem, needlework, etc.).
From a psychological point of view, this is easy to explain. Attention, the interest of a stranger beckons precisely with its novelty. Especially if people do not receive (or it seems to them that they do not receive) praise, recognition from their loved ones, friends, acquaintances. For example, a woman has long forgotten when her husband last praised her, called her beautiful and beloved. Or the modest "office worker" feels underestimated: the bosses often find fault with them than praise them. And then suddenly from the outside - compliments, sincere praise! And over and over again. There is something to dizzy with.
There are also frequent cases when love by correspondence overwhelms people who are eager for sincere recognition. For example, a very wealthy man wants to be loved for his human qualities, and not for wealth. Or a dazzling beauty dreams that the partner sees in her, first of all, internal, and not external beauty. In these cases, in questionnaires and during correspondence, deliberately false, underestimated information about themselves is often indicated, for example, young people indicate that they have low material wealth, live in a rented apartment or in a communal apartment.
There are many reasons for the emergence of virtual novels. Whether it is normal or not normal, only their participants themselves can decide. In any case, if a person feels lonely, but he does not dare to take the first step in real life, it is better to get to know each other on the Internet and start a correspondence relationship than to sit at home and "drown" in his negative thoughts. Perhaps that same romance will grow into something big.
