For a man, a woman should be like a stone wall. Most of all, women value in the representatives of the opposite sex such qualities as caring and the ability to support at the right moment. But it is necessary to determine whether such behavior is a manifestation of love or is it just another fad of the rules of good form.
Differences between caring and gallantry
From childhood, men are taught to prove their actions not in word, but in deed. Proper upbringing consists in teaching the boy the ability to shake hands with a lady when exiting a transport, open doors in front of her and help carry heavy objects. In fact, only a few men meet the criteria of a true gentleman. Re-educating others is almost impossible, although some women have succeeded.
If you have met a gallant gentleman, you should not take his courtship as an unequivocal sympathy. Gallantry (courteous attitude, emphasized politeness, courtesy) is a formality, a manifestation of a decent upbringing. Caring means a set of actions in relation to someone, aimed at the well-being of the object. Only loving people can wish well-being to another person.
Love and care - one does not interfere with the other
If a man:
- throws a sweater / jacket over your shoulders on a cold evening, straightens your hat, etc.
- worries whether you are hungry or not
- always listens to you attentively
- can easily go to the pharmacy at any time of the day for the necessary medications
- with an unhappy expression on your face, he sincerely asks: "What happened?" and immediately offers options for solving the problem
- steadfastly tolerates the lack of sexual contact due to your malaise, shyness or unwillingness to move on to a more intimate relationship
- throws everything and comes in case you are in the hospital, etc., this speaks of a clear concern on his part.
In addition to all of the above, caring in a marriage involves sharing responsibilities. Noticing that you are tired, the man can, for example, wash the dishes or swaddle / put the baby, and then give you a relaxing massage. The increased attention to a woman during her pregnancy is generally non-negotiable. Any adequate man will protect his beloved during this difficult period for both: pamper with goodies, massage tired legs and lower back, check if warm socks are worn in the cold, bring herbal tea in case of attacks of toxicosis, etc.
Many people incorrectly believe that a truly loving husband should guess all the wishes of his wife and satisfy them. But men, by their nature, simply do not know how to understand subtle female hints. If you want something specific, be direct about it.
Caring, as one of the qualities of love, cannot constantly manifest itself unilaterally. Wanting reciprocity, show yourself how dear a man is to you: cook breakfast, knit a stylish scarf or socks, buy a new razor, etc. Sometimes, even a simple hug combined with words of support can give an incredible sense of significance to someone.
