Men also feel insecure about their abilities. Therefore, the question of how to get to know a girl correctly does not lose its relevance. After all, not a single guy, taking the first step towards acquaintance, wants to get a rude refusal.
The main factor in a successful meeting with a girl is self-confidence. They don't teach you how to get to know a girl correctly at school or college. As a rule, skills come with experience, and the right words are chosen intuitively. However, not all men can boast of experience and intuition.
Acquaintance with a girl can be conditionally divided into three stages: inner mood, direct contact with the object, consolidation of the result.
The inner attitude before meeting a girl
If a man is not confident in himself, it is possible that his girlfriend will at least be alerted and scared away. Therefore, you need to tune in in advance to the desired mood. All guys' fears before dating come down mainly to three points - the fear of being rejected, not finding the right words and attracting the attention of strangers.
There is no need to be afraid of rejection at all. After all, what is refusal? This is evidence that the man chose the wrong girl. Every lady draws in her head the image of an ideal man, there is no guarantee that you are like him. You shouldn't be upset about this.
Look for the one that at first glance sees in you something close and dear.
Fear of attracting the attention of strangers indicates low self-esteem. But, if you think about it, what is terrible about the fact that completely strangers will see your act? Are they going to tell everyone about it? Unlikely. Most likely, passers-by will simply shrug their shoulders and in a minute will be forgotten by their thoughts. It makes no sense to focus on extraneous attention.
The fear that the right words will not be found disappears when self-confidence appears. There is no list of the right words for dating. Say what comes from your heart.
Sincerity has never let anyone down.
Direct contact with the girl
The first movements in the direction of the girl should not be abrupt, it can scare her. Be flexible, graceful. Keep in mind that the chances of a good acquaintance are maximized if the girl likes your look. Dirty shoes, unkempt clothes, and a bad breath will scare a girl off before you even have time to say anything. Therefore, before meeting, put yourself in complete order.
If the visual barrier is perfectly passed, you should start talking. The first phrase should be unexpected, non-standard. For example: “Do you look at all men like that?”, “Your smile is so beautiful that I forgot where I was going”, “Well, how can I resist and not get to know you!”. With this approach, the girl cannot simply refuse you, she will have to answer something. And this is already half of the victory!
Securing the dating result
In order for the acquaintance to develop into pleasant communication, you need to consolidate the result obtained. You shouldn't ask the girl's phone number. Better to hand her your business card and tell her that you will be glad to hear the girl's voice again. You need to speak in a confident tone, not begging or pleading.
Show the girl that your intentions are quite serious, but you leave the choice to her, since you respect her opinion. Any lady will appreciate such actions and will no doubt call the indicated number.
