Harmony in relationships between young people is not always the case. Often a girl is madly in love and is ready for any sacrifice, and a young man simply allows her to be near and does not appreciate her at all.
Instructions
Step 1
Hearing the phrase: “He doesn't appreciate her at all!”, Many people immediately begin to feel sorry for the unfortunate girl and condemn the cruel and ungrateful young man. But the situation is often not so straightforward. To understand the cause of this problem, analyze the behavior of each of the partners.
Step 2
If you put your love above all else and forget about self-esteem, the guy stops appreciating you. The words of the author of popular psychological courses Ekaterina Prokhorova: "Love yourself and others will love you" in this case are very relevant. Don't let anyone disrespect or disrespect you. If a guy joked at you in an inappropriate way, disrespectfully responded to your views, and you are afraid or cannot answer him adequately, just defiantly leave the room. Do not put up with humiliation in any way.
Step 3
If an inner voice is in a hurry to reason with you: “And if he doesn't come again, won't he apologize? You can't live without him! You can forgive once,”do not give in to your emotions. There is a type of men who initially picks up a darling with low self-esteem and asserts themselves by bullying her. You don't want to be a whipping girl.
Step 4
Another case is also possible. Your partner treated you perfectly, fulfilled your every desire, but as soon as you began to live together, the situation changed dramatically. He became rude, callous and cynical, no trace of his old feelings remained. The fact is that men are very afraid of losing their beloved. Therefore, as long as she is free from all obligations, she can leave at any moment, refuse him, the young man behaves perfectly. But as soon as he realizes that the girl cannot just leave him, he becomes unceremonious and despotic.
Step 5
To avoid this fate and make the guy appreciate you, always remain somewhat independent, even if you live with or married your boyfriend. Be in moderation in everything. Take an interest in his business, but don't be annoying. Chat with his friends, but don't go to all of their meetings. Give your boyfriend the opportunity to enjoy being in a male company.
Step 6
Always try to look good, keep yourself dignified and confident. Your young man should see that he has got a real treasure that needs to be valued and protected.
