Sometimes it happens that people live together, everything is fine with them, their life is well-organized, there are no scandals, they calmly communicate with each other, but they still feel lonely.
Reasons for joint loneliness
People living together are sometimes lonely anyway. This happens when the goal of the relationship is not quite right. People live together because they are afraid that otherwise they will be left alone at all or because they are afraid that society will perceive them negatively, because a person must have a family, because it is so accepted. It's just that these people are trying to take care of the future. They exist together so that in old age they would not be lonely, but even being together, these people remain strangers to each other.
There are couples who live like housemates, and it happens that they are quite happy with it. If you feel like this is your situation and you don't like it, you need to think about what to do to save yourself and your partner from discomfort.
If you don't change anything, you can end up being a very unhappy person.
Become family to each other, and you will never be alone together
Very often people do not pay attention to one detail in a relationship: a person changes throughout his life. And if people in a couple change, and the relationship stands still, as a result, the couple comes to a sad result. They have a feeling of living with a stranger. It seems that once upon a time they met a completely different man or woman. In fact, there is some truth in this. And if you missed or did not notice the changes, development, growth of your partner, it is not surprising that you will get the impression that you were simply deceived. But you can always try to fix something. The most important thing is that you need to start changes from your attitude towards the chosen one, and not demand to change him.
A common mistake in relationships is trying to fit in with your partner. Two established adults do not have to change in order to be comfortable for someone. You need to open your eyes and perceive a person as he is, and not sculpt an ideal for yourself - this is possible, but not for long.
Likewise, try not to break yourself by adjusting to your loved one. Try to understand that you should not bend, but act in the way that will be better and more correct for both of you.
The key to a good long-term relationship is interest in each other. Observe each other's successes, share griefs, be aware of personal experiences. Such actions will lead you on the path to happiness. Mutual understanding is almost impossible to achieve in silence. Take an interest in your chosen one. Don't be afraid to start it now if you have behaved differently up to this point. For your couple, this will be a good investment, which will give its results over time. Yes, of course, at first it will not be familiar to you, but your chosen one will be pleasantly surprised by the change that is taking place. Remember not to completely dissolve into your partner's life. Your life is equally important. Do it with equal zeal. You must be interesting too. You can easily feel lonely in a couple if you see your husband's life boiling with a spring and not having time to live yours, so do not forget about a sense of proportion.
