In the life of almost any person, there are situations when he feels uncomfortable, insecure, restless. Anything can be the reason for such a state. Failure at work or in personal life, loss of a friend or loved one, etc. And it's good if there are people nearby who will support and calm you down. But at the same time, many of them may have a question: “What is the best way to reassure a loved one? How can I help him?"
Instructions
Step 1
Find out the cause of your concern. Maybe a person is just worried about the upcoming exams, an interview or an important meeting, or, perhaps, the reason is more serious (death of a loved one, divorce, etc.). Ask him very carefully and unobtrusively. All people are different. One person will immediately tell you the reason for their bad mood, and the other will need to try to talk. Ask questions carefully so as not to embarrass yourself and your loved one.
Step 2
Listen carefully to the person. Let him speak about what is happening in his life, how he feels, and then you can ask him questions if you have any. Perhaps a person will repeat himself in his story, speak rather confusedly, but in these cases there is no need to interrupt him. He already has a hard time collecting his thoughts, so just sit and listen carefully. Sometimes this is enough to help a person find peace of mind and peace of mind.
Step 3
Console. Say the words that are expected of you at this moment. And to understand what they want to hear from you, the story of the person himself about his problem, as well as your knowledge of his character and temperament, will help. Maybe these will be warm words of support and consolation, or maybe, on the contrary, you need to shake the person up, and your rather harsh statements and actions are best suited for this.
Step 4
Many people, trying to calm down a loved one, begin to compare their problems with the problems of others. This is not worth doing. At the moment of frustration, a person is focused on himself, on his inner world and he is not very interested in what is happening in other people.
Step 5
Do not try to cheer, entertain a loved one at this moment. He, perhaps, would like to do it himself, but his mental balance is disturbed. First, let the person calm down a little, come to his senses, and then, perhaps, it is worth trying to distract him from sad thoughts.
Step 6
Nor is it worth arguing that there is no cause for concern. This can be perceived as inattention and misunderstanding on your part. As a result, he may also be offended by you.
Step 7
Tell the person that you will always support him, that you will not quit in difficult times. Offer your help in solving the problem. Realizing that he is not alone will help you feel calmer and more confident.
Step 8
During the conversation, use the tools at hand to calm your loved one. Pour him a soothing herbal tea, or you might even suggest taking a sedative (valerian, motherwort, etc.).
