By following these tips, you will definitely re-educate a spoiled child into a kind, sympathetic and understanding child.
Reasons for a spoiled child
Ill-considered upbringing system. Very often, as a result of inconsistency in the parenting model, the child becomes spoiled. For example, a mother insists that the child go to bed no later than 22-00. While dad allows his beloved child to sit up for another half hour or hour. Problems may arise due to differences in views on parenting among mothers-dads and grandparents. Very often, grandparents spoil their grandchildren, while parents do their best to pacify the darling. The result is obvious. The child begins to manipulate adults. Surprisingly, he does it very well.
Long-awaited child. It is no secret that many married couples have problems with procreation. Someone puts their career first, hoping to “live for themselves” later. Someone just can't get pregnant. There are a lot of options. The result is the same - the newborn becomes the center of the Universe for everyone around - for mom and dad, for grandparents, for everyone, everyone, everyone. Of course, this is not a bad thing. A child is a miracle. You don't need to love him half, he deserves more. But! You need to know when to stop. Never mess with a baby. And don't let others do it. Do not seek to protect the child from everything. Do not fly at full steam to solve the little problems of the crumbs, let him try to do it himself first. The child is the same person as you are. It will not be possible to put him in a golden cage, protecting him from everything bad and dangerous. Therefore, do not even try to do this, otherwise you will have to put into practice the advice that I will give a little below to the parents of spoiled children.
Confusion in their own views on raising a child. Most often, new parents face a similar problem, who with all their hearts want to raise a kind and sympathetic child, but do not know how to do it. They do not understand how to behave with the baby, what to allow and what to restrict. In fact, there is nothing terrible about it. All of us were once burned by our own mistakes, each parent stumbled and got confused in their parenting methods. The most important thing is not to start the situation, or even worse, not to let it go. Otherwise, you will then have to reap the fruits of your own work.
How does a spoiled child grow up?
Aggressive; weak; defenseless; jealous; greedy; unsure of themselves; unable to make decisions.
From this it is clear that the prospect is not the most rosy. Something needs to be changed.
How to re-educate a spoiled child?
The most important advice is to stop indulging the whims of a spoiled child. Just do it not abruptly, but gradually. First, teach your child to be patient.
For example, a kid asks to turn on cartoons for him, and at this time you are busy in the kitchen. Explain to the spoiled child that be sure to turn on cartoons, but 10 minutes after you are free. Naturally, in response you will hear howling, screaming and the familiar stamping of small feet. This is where it is worth keeping yourself in control. In the end, you yourself decided to re-educate the spoiled child. Don't retreat! Pretend that nothing happened, go about your business, but after 10 minutes, still turn on the TV.
Another example, in a store, a kid asks to buy another toy. Say you didn't bring any extra money with you today. And again, don't give in. No, no, no. It is not necessary, having seen the first tear, to rush to the checkout with a doll-machine-train.
As a result, the child must understand that there are not only his desires and whims, that the people around him also need to be reckoned with. First of all - with mom and dad.
Then talk to the spoiled child. Explain to him that you didn’t buy him a toy, not because you don’t love him anymore, but because you actually didn’t have money. Promise to buy from the very first paycheck what you didn't buy today. And do not forget to fulfill your promise, otherwise the baby will think that you are deceiving him. Then you still have to fight with children's lies, because children copy the behavior of their parents.
Make it clear to the spoiled child that you have not stopped loving him as much as before, it is just that sometimes he upsets mom and dad with his behavior. Focus on this. That it is not the child himself that upsets you, but his behavior. Otherwise, the baby may get the impression that you do not love him because he is bad. The child's psyche is a very complex thing. You need to be extremely careful in your words, so as not to further complicate the relationship with the child.
