Modern children and adolescents communicate quite closely with the computer. They devote almost all their free time to games, communication on social networks and viewing various information.
Despite all the precautions, parental controls and other prohibitions, a child can see videos intended only for adults. And this does not mean at all that the teenager was purposefully looking for a video marked XXX, it may well be that this is an extraneous advertisement accompanying the game, an incomprehensible link or video shown by a friend, classmate, etc.
First of all, you need to postpone all your affairs, no matter how important they are. It is very difficult for a child to decide on a conversation with an adult, so all attention should be focused on him.
If mom or dad is dumbfounded, upset, or seething with anger, it's best to postpone the conversation for a while. It is important to communicate with the child in an adequate state. Moreover, the refusal to talk should be motivated, you cannot send the child into the room without explanation, he may simply withdraw into himself and stop trusting the parent.
Psychologists believe that a parent of the same gender should talk to a child, then it will be easier to build a conversation. You shouldn't play around and get off with general phrases like "I don't know, or let's talk later." It is necessary to honestly and, if possible, calmly tell that between two close and loving people, in addition to moral, there are intimate relationships, that this is one of the components of marriage, and what was shown in a porn video is not the norm.
It is imperative to tell the child that there will be intimate relationships in his life, but they should be by mutual agreement, without coercion, and upon reaching the appropriate age.
It is very important for parents: do not ignore the child, and even more so do not shout at him in such a situation. If a child approached with such a conversation, then he trusts you and he really needs your help and participation. Sit next to him, hug or pat him on the head and say that if you have questions on an intimate topic, that you are ready to listen to him and advise.
