Earlier, special attention was paid to raising children. Everyone took part in this: parents, grandparents, and even the state. The nursery, kindergarten, school were under the close supervision of others. This obliged to adhere to generally accepted rules that determined the moral and spiritual development of the individual.
Now everything has changed. There are no mandatory requirements, education began to acquire some permissiveness. The social environment in which a teenager is today dictates its own rules. And they are not in favor of the formation of a normal, healthy society. The question arises, how can we in the future see our children spiritually and emotionally healthy, and most importantly socially adapted in today's society.
The main development, upbringing of the personality, is laid in the first years of life. Feelings and habits, character traits, creative thinking, emotions are formed. During this period, children are brought up by parents who have different ideas about what a child should be. An important role is played by innate inclinations, which are determined by the genes of relatives, which have been formed for centuries.
The kid grows up, goes to kindergarten, meets with other children and sees that their behavior is different. Everyone behaves the way they used to at home. In the kindergarten, toys are common, not all children understand that they need to be shared with other children. You cannot offend each other, you need to help. Observing, the child adopts such a model of behavior that is new for him, tries to repeat it, because for him it is a different experience. In such cases, it is advisable to tell the adult who is nearby that it is not good to offend, the toy can be shared, and the friend can be helped. But today, rarely anyone interferes in the educational process, because many parents do not react to the remark, they believe that it is not so important. And some take it very violently. Then the child goes to school, meets with other violations of the rules, in his understanding. Thus, the social environment influences the further development of a teenager. The dynamics of the development of the modern world also makes its own adjustments.
Often we are presented with a variety of child development systems that are practiced in different countries. Many parents began to adopt foreign parenting schemes. All these systems, suitable for different countries, cannot take root in a separate state. As a result, the habitual norms of behavior of our ancestors developed over the years are violated. This is detrimental to the correct development of society.
Many books and manuals have been written about how to properly educate the younger generation; theoretically, this should work. But in order to practically translate these ideas into reality, appropriate, social, living conditions are needed. We begin to face the problem of interacting with each other. Moreover, we cannot isolate a person from society, our life is arranged in such a way that we live in a team. Conflicts are inevitable, which is what we see today.
Children of about 3 years old are playing in the sandbox, mothers are watching them nearby. Suppose Dima comes up to Artyom and asks for a shovel. Artem, of course, gives, he knows what needs to be shared. Then he wants to take it back, but Dima plays with enthusiasm, does not give it away. Then Artyom's mother tells Dima that you played, let Artyom play too. During this dialogue, Dima's mom should have joined the conversation, but she does not. It means that she has a different approach to education, maybe "Japanese" or "Chinese", it doesn't matter, this is already a potential conflict.
A passer-by is walking, two teenagers are running towards them, playing on the go. One older man hits the head from all over, the one who is smaller. A passer-by makes a remark, the boys run further, not paying attention to him, dad follows them. Without lifting his head from the phone, he throws the phrase - "They do not need to make a remark, this is none of your business."On the one hand, it really is not a passer-by's business, let his children beat each other. On the other hand, his children will come to school, kindergarten tomorrow, and will offend others. With this approach to upbringing, problems will arise for people living nearby.
How can we return ourselves and return our children to a state of morality and spirituality. It is important to preserve yourself, your acquired character skills. Do not lose such qualities as love, kindness, compassion and desire to help. At the same time, live without interfering, but helping each other. The task is not easy, you cannot change everything for yourself. What to put up with? No, the life of our offspring is at stake. Then you need to change the tactics of education. What can be changed?
We are all accustomed to a set of basic rules developed over decades. Girls do not offend, they are weak, and boys are strong and, moreover, noble knights. Little ones need to be protected, to help them, if suddenly something does not work out for them. Elders need to be respected, to respond to their comments. Parents' advice must be taken into account, because bad advice will not be given. Educators, teachers, educators are our mentors, they are called to correct our first mistakes, help us, pave the way to a brighter life. We understand that today, in our real conditions, it is problematic to instill such a life position in the younger generation.
It may be necessary to make adjustments to the upbringing. Children should form their own, their own, assessment. Violence should not come from you, never start first. You must always defend yourself if there is no way to resolve the issue peacefully. Analyze and choose the right decision inherent in your upbringing. If a son or daughter talks about an unfair attitude towards himself, you need to teach him, to be ready himself, to the right way out of the conflict. Thus, we will contribute to the moral growth of the child, in his own view of the situation.
A teenager comes home from school and you smell cigarettes. You ask, did you smoke? - No, he says. Why are you twisting, deceiving me, I smell? - I just stood there, my friends all smoke, their parents allow them. At the same time, the teenager knows that he is not telling the truth. What can I say? Indeed, today many adults reason like this: "It will still smoke, let it be better for us to know about it." Friends will persistently invite you to smoke, and it is inconvenient to stand out among them. Why not stand out with your individuality, because it is so original, everyone smokes, but I don’t? At the same time, I keep my health and youth. Saving is also an important factor today. At the same time, I am honest with myself, I do not violate the moral criteria laid down since childhood. The decision is mine, conscious. Great!
Veronica is 17 years old, a friend made a beautiful tattoo on her shoulder, suggested it to her too, today it is fashionable. Fashion is a serious business, it dictates its own rules, young people are committed to it. Having judged, Veronica decided not to rush, and suddenly she meets a young man, they will love each other. Of course, Tatu is not an obstacle, but still? Not everyone is positive about this. And an adult mother will look like, what to say to her growing daughter.
As a result, a person needs to be taught from childhood, to find arguments that need to be brought under the basis of his upbringing. And they should be good for him. It turns out that today you are the defender of your values.
This article is for further discussion of caring parents, maybe someone will argue or make their own thoughts, advice. Go for it!
