The child grows up and talks less and less about his thoughts. Shares not with you, but with friends. How not to lose this thread of trust?
5 ways to win your child's trust
The child begins to learn about life on his own after five years. By the age of eight, he has his own secrets that parents want to know about. Moms and dads are afraid to lose that thin thread of trust, which is getting thinner every year. Children over the age of eight are very sensitive to adult behavior. But by observing a few rules, you can maintain trust between you.
1) get your child to work together
Find an activity that is physically simple, but useful for everyday life. In the process of joint work, the child “excitedly” lays out all his adventures. Can share both pleasant moments and not so much. And if you were confused during the story by a certain detail, do not interrupt. There will be a chance that some points will remain unsaid, and you will want to know more with eager curiosity. With your "torture" you will knock him out of his mind, and the theme of adventure will remain a secret from you forever.
And if a dispute suddenly breaks out, where, respectively, the parent word is more authoritative. Next time your child will think about what to say to you.
2. Tell your child about your hobbies
Children listen with interest about your past life. Share with them your "good secrets" from your time. This will prove to your child that you trust him.
Tell us what you want to achieve in the future. What do you want to start doing in the near future?
But there is no need to wait and hope that, having heard “your” dream, he will be inspired by the idea and follow this path. By this method, you will position him to respond and thereby learn about his desires. This should be done on an ongoing basis.
3. Keep your promise
Before making a promise to your child, think about fulfilling it. Then it will be pointless to explain to him why you did not succeed. What does a child have in mind and memory? Growing resentment.
Have you promised to go to the cinema or the park together? Go!
They promised to give pocket money to buy the "little thing" he needed. Give! If you want to control the purchase, by chance take an interest. Better yet, learn to trust him yourself!
They said buy a bike. Buy it!
4. Answer children's questions
What? Where? When? Do not interrupt children with questions by explaining to them that you are busy at the moment. Answer his curious topics, because he learns this world. There is no one and nothing more important than your child. The little "why" will know the answer, but not from your lips. You will not be satisfied with this knowledge. And over time, he will not ask your advice and opinions, because earlier you made it clear to him that there are "more important things".
If, in your opinion, "it" is not for the child's brain, then choose for the explanation that is suitable for his thinking.
5. Do not discuss children, especially in their presence.
You should discuss any claims against him only with him and with no one else.
Don't say that there is no time to communicate with your child. Find a means of communication.
While you're at work, use your phone. By sending an SMS during the day, you will arrange the child for a passionate conversation in the evening.
