Marriage is one of the most serious decisions in a woman's life. Modern representatives of the fair sex are increasingly postponing this event for later, giving priority to career, self-development and other activities that are more meaningful to them. Doubts about accepting a solemn marriage proposal may arise for a number of other reasons.
Do you really want to get married?
Answer yourself honestly to the question: do you want to get married? Do you dream of waking up with your loved one every morning, cooking borscht for him, washing his socks, etc.? Perhaps you are frightened by the common life, the stories of your friends about their sad experiences, about the unsuccessful family life? You should not try on every situation you hear for yourself, remember that everything depends on specific people and events. And the inevitable domestic problems can always be solved somehow: by distributing responsibilities around the house, purchasing multifunctional household appliances, hiring a housekeeper, etc.
Do you have doubts about marriage? Do you think that by arranging your personal life, you will hurt someone or badly? If you have children from a previous marriage and they don't want a new dad, try talking to them about the situation. The content of the conversation will depend on the age of your son or daughter, you can tell the kids that the new dad will love and pamper them, give them gifts, take them to the circus and the zoo, etc. You should talk more seriously with older children, tell them that you are tired of loneliness, that it is difficult for you to cope with all the problems on your own, emphasize that no one will ever take their place in your heart.
If you don't think you can get married because of other goals in life, live your life the way you like it. Develop, climb the career ladder, etc. But for the sake of fairness, you can see that you can be engaged in the organization of a career while being married - of course, provided that your husband shares your views on life. In addition, it is worth considering the fact that as you age, it will become more difficult for you to find your other half.
Once again about love
Why do you need permission to get married? Do you love your future husband? If you cannot answer this question, but understand that you want life changes, do not rush to take a decisive step, remember that by getting married, you will radically change your life.
Perhaps you are not yet ready for marriage, and it does not matter how old you are - 18 or 30. Do not listen to what others tell you, listen to your own feelings. If you marry because you are bored or want something new, you will most likely make not only yourself, but also your spouse unhappy.
Do not marry someone in spite, deciding to prove something, you will not find happiness in such a marriage. It often happens that a woman loves one person but marries another. In this case, the situation is only aggravated, the formed love triangle is unlikely to help in creating a strong and friendly family.
When making a decision that is important for your fate, do not follow someone's lead, remember that it is you who will have to live with this person, and not your parents, girlfriends, etc. Weigh all the pros and cons and make the only right decision: get married right now or be free from the bonds of Hymen for some time.
