Each of us wants to find our true love, our real soul mate. However, there are also so-called "karmic" halves. These are the people with whom in past lives we could not establish relationships, go through difficult situations, and in this life we go through them again.
And for this it is very little to meet your soul mate - you also need to keep it, and go through with it what has not been passed in past lives. But it's not that hard if you know how to do it.
How to find the right half?
Take one simple test:
Divide A4 paper into three columns. In the first column, write the qualities of your chosen one, in the second - the qualities of a girl who is worthy of such a person, in the third - your qualities. If at least 50% of your qualities are similar to the list from the second column, you are on the right track. If not, think about what to do to acquire these qualities.
And if you don't know your qualities? It happens so - every girl thinks that she is "white and fluffy", but for some reason after weddings out of a thousand couples, six hundred are divorced - more than half.
Therefore, it is so important to get to know yourself, your characteristics, so that later you can calmly accept them in your chosen one. After all, couples are formed according to the law "like to like", that is, husband and wife, as a rule, have similar character traits. Therefore, understanding yourself is the first step to building a good relationship with your soul mate.
Family relations experts advise you to ask your friends and loved ones for help: let them write five of your positive and negative qualities each. Make such lists at the same time. And then compare your notes with those that other people write to you. And do not be offended - believe me, they know better from the outside what qualities you show the most. Moreover, thank them for their work, for their indifference and desire to help.
And if your chosen one starts talking to you about these qualities, do not be offended by him. After all, you know that this is true.
Marriage problems are inevitable
But you can make them softer if you understand each other's problems. Before playing a wedding, talk to the chosen one - ask him what is the order in his family. Who is in charge, who makes decisions, who manages money, and so on. Of course, a romantic period in a relationship is wonderful. But it will not last forever, because after the wedding you will need to organize your life: cook breakfast every day, make the bed, wash the dishes and vacuum.
Find out from your future half - how everything is organized in his family. And compare with the way of life of your parents' family. If these things are different, then it will be necessary to negotiate and create your own rules, the rules of your family.
And remember that in a relationship, both should benefit - then the union will be harmonious. Therefore, do not demand only for yourself, do not pull the blanket over yourself. Respect your partner's wishes and interests.
And if there was a conflict, use the formula "X, Y, Z": when you did X, in situation Y I felt Z. And that's all - no accusations, complaints and offenses. And even more so, no name-calling and negative comparisons. Do not tell your husband that he is a slob if he threw socks in front of the TV - use the formula.
Marriage is not always easy
Even if you are not karmic, but fiery halves, there will still be trials. This can manifest itself in the form of different views on some important things, in different life principles, in a different religion or faith.
Therefore, before the wedding, try to spend as much time as possible not on romantic dates, but in joint affairs. On camping trips, helping elderly relatives, and so on. In these situations, you get to know each other much better than if you only go to cafes and to the cinema.
In one American film, the daughter asked her mother if she should sleep with a classmate after the prom. Mom replied very wisely: "You can do this if you want your children to be like him."
You can take this advice for yourself: choose a half on this basis. Sexual energy is very strong, and you shouldn't give it to just anyone. After sexual contact in energies, the connection with this person remains forever. Sexual compatibility is important, but heart connection and understanding are much more important. If it is, the sexual sphere will adjust.
And finally, the most important thing: every girl should know: how much love she gives to her soul mate, and receives so much from her in return. The whole Universe is arranged in such a way that the female energy absorbs love from space and gives it to the man. Then he will return this love to her. And if a woman does not love her soul mate, then in return she will not receive love either.
We conclude:
- get to know yourself before building a serious relationship;
- do not expect continuous romance from family relationships;
- learn to give love to a loved one;
- pronounce all difficult situations, talk about your feelings.
Look for a soul mate, get married and build a family consciously, then you will live happily ever after with your chosen one all your life.
