An alcoholic spouse is always a tragedy in the family. Women endure such husbands for years for many reasons, and the main one is children. What choice to make for the sake of the child: stay and fight or leave for the safety of your baby.
If the children are already teenagers, then you can discuss this issue with them. They understand everything perfectly and have their own opinion on this matter.
If your child is still young, then the burden of responsibility for him lies with you
Little children need very little to be happy - happy mom and dad.
Even if you are brave and smile in front of him, and quarrels and scandals take place behind a closed door, the child feels everything.
As if from birth they have a natural radar tuned to the emotions of their parents. You cannot hide your grief and sorrow from children. The pain of the mother is the pain of the child. Such an atmosphere negatively affects the development of the baby and his future life. Children become isolated, a whole lump of complexes and fears is formed, which interfere with a full life.
Talk to your husband before taking drastic measures
Very important: Never try to have conversations with your spouse when he is drunk. In this state, a person does not adequately assess the situation and can react sharply. Let your husband sleep it off, help him move away from alcoholic intoxication, and start a conversation.
The main problem of any addicted person is that he does not consider himself so. Try to explain to him how you see the situation, tell him that this is bad for the child. Do not give ultimatums, better offer options.
If your spouse admits the problem, then get ready to fight for his sobriety for the rest of your life. Even a drop of alcohol can bring everything back. If possible, send your child to a relative or friend for a while.
At the beginning of the fight against alcohol addiction, there are often breakdowns, withdrawal begins. Better to let the baby see you not often, but happy. And separation from a child for a loving father will become even more motivation. After a while, your baby will return to a full-fledged happy family, which will be the best option for him, because mom and dad are the most important people in his life.
Unfortunately, there are very frequent cases when alcoholism brought a man to dismissal, and conversations do not help and he does not want to accept help. When your husband threatens you and your children, you need to seek help from family and friends or the police and social assistance. In such a situation, for the sake of the child, one must leave. This is already a matter of the physical safety of you and your baby. You should not play the role of a heroine or a great martyr, this did not lead to anything good. Don't be afraid to take this step, even if you are alone. Crisis centers will always help you.
The main thing is to remember that your baby is next to you, alive and well. For the sake of the child, the mother is ready to overcome many difficulties. Maybe he does not understand why dad is not around, the main thing is not to deceive the baby. The kid will grow up, understand everything and be sure to say thank you to his mother, who did everything for his happiness.
