Prolonged abstinence from sex has different effects on men and women, but the result is almost always the same: disharmony in intimate relationships. Why does it arise?
Abstinence and its consequences in men and women
Prolonged sexual abstinence has a negative effect on both men and women. And if a man can experience primarily physical ailments, then women, due to abstinence, can have serious psychological problems, and sometimes mental disorders. In addition, both men and women can experience unaccountable aggression.
In a sense, it is easier for men to solve the problem of the absence of a permanent sexual partner: if there is no beloved woman, she can be replaced by an unloved one. Discharge and satisfaction do not have such a strong connection with the personality of the sexual object. Physiology in men plays a much larger role, and sex does not always indicate emotional attachment. Unlike a woman, a man becomes absent-minded, nervous. Having received satisfaction, he can calmly focus on work and other everyday problems, since sexual abstinence negatively affects the intellectual activity of men.
Women are more complex in terms of sexual intercourse. The emotional component plays a dominant role here. For a woman, sex is not only bodily pleasure, but primarily an act of trust, emotional attachment and psychological closeness. Sex with a casual partner does not always bring the desired satisfaction. In addition, many women do not want to go to bed with just anyone, they need emotional contact. Lack of sex makes a woman irritable, hot-tempered, and with a prolonged absence of sexual contact, negative psychological changes can occur in a woman's character, she becomes tough, principled, realizes the unspent energy potential in work.
Of course, at worst, you can replace full-fledged physical intimacy with masturbation, but for a woman, it is not so much physical contact that is important as emotional. It does not solve the problem of the lack of normal sex for a man, and if it does, then only partially. In any case, the feeling of loneliness that occurs in people who have not entered into sexual and emotional contact with a member of the opposite sex for a long time will express themselves sharply and inevitably.
Difficulty resuming intimate relationships
Married couples and non-regular partners facing long interruptions in sexual intercourse may find it difficult to resume intimate relationships. If a man is able to accumulate sexual energy, the consequence of which may be premature ejaculation, then a woman needs time to "get used" to sexual contacts with a partner. She needs more time to recover her sex drive. This difference should be taken into account.
After a long break, a man should pay special attention to the process of arousing a woman. And if in the usual mode of sexual relations a woman on average needs about 15 minutes of love foreplay, then after forced abstinence such a foreplay requires a longer duration - 30, or even more, minutes. On the other hand, a woman should also take into account the characteristics of the male body after prolonged abstinence. Passionate affection is not a good idea after a long abstinence; care, emotional sensitivity and tact are necessary.
Do not be disappointed if during sexual intercourse she did not receive the desired pleasure due to failure - this is a temporary phenomenon. With the resumption of sexual contacts, everything will come into harmony, if irritation and demonstrative discontent are not allowed. A negative reaction from a partner to a man can make a painful impression and block his opportunities. The fear of being misunderstood in bed (and ridiculed by a woman) can cause harm to both partners, which will be difficult to correct later. And then persistent disharmony between loved ones cannot be avoided.
