There are two important women in a man's life: a mother and a spouse. Sometimes jealousy and misunderstanding arise between them. If it seems to you that your man is more attached to his parent, you do not need to start a war and threaten with divorce, look for peaceful, but effective solutions.
Love for mom and wife is very different, they cannot be compared. But only time for both is not always enough, therefore friction arises. It should be understood that it is impossible to make a choice between these ladies, one cannot betray one for the other, and that is why it is worth looking for alternative solutions. And most often in such a situation, it is the wife who will have to make changes in her life, try to distance herself from her parents.
Love for mom
Strong affection for mom often arises in those men who grew up without a father. The woman spent her whole life raising her beloved son, she did everything for his happiness. That is why he feels obligated and understands that apart from him there is nothing important in the life of a parent. It is impossible to turn away from her, because this amounts to betrayal. And she, in turn, does not want to let her son go, does not understand how to build her existence without him.
Mom never leaves her child, she does not betray, does not hurt. He feels protected next to her. And if you try to separate them, serious trauma occurs, which can lead to a deterioration in relations with your spouse. It is important not to prohibit communication, not to deprive this opportunity, but simply to separate two families, to define the rules of your space.
Good relationship with parents
So that it doesn't seem that mom is more important, you need to live separately. Then there will be a space for the spouse, where she is the mistress and the beloved woman, and the mother's place where you can regularly visit. If your husband refuses to live without your mother, come up with a variety of reasons to leave, but do not shout, do not blackmail with divorce or something else. Any scandals will only aggravate the situation, real arguments are needed, and not just emotions.
Make friends with your spouse's mother, do not make an enemy out of her. Often her word is more important than yours, because she has been with her son for much more years, so it is useless to enter into a confrontation. Show her that you will not take the boy away from her, that you are for frequent communication. Ask her for advice, take an interest in health, give small gifts. Its location will be very helpful to you.
If there is competition, you need to show your love. And to do it without criticism, but honestly and very sincerely. Show your love for your husband, take care of him, show respect and faith in him. In this case, he will see that you are doing this not in order to prove something to him, but just like that. This will be the most important argument. The one who will scold the enemy will lose in this fight. But it is better not to engage in such wars, since it is not always possible to restrain anger.
