It often happens that a couple quarrels and a man finds no other argument than a fist. What are the causes of domestic violence? What should a woman do and how to survive humiliation?
Instructions
Step 1
This is human psychology, if a man allows himself to hit a woman, he will do it again and again. First there will be "sorry", then "it is her own fault." From the confession of a divorced man: "When I first hit my wife, I stopped perceiving her as a woman, stopped respecting her." The story lasted for years until the woman decided to divorce. Only in this radical way was it possible to interrupt the series of humiliation and bullying.
Step 2
You should not endure the beatings and hope that the man will correct himself, that this will not happen again.
There are two options: keep the family or leave. The second option is not acceptable for everyone and not always. There are many reasons a woman thinks she has to endure beatings. For example, the demoralization of a woman against the background of complete financial dependence on her husband, the presence of children who are attached to their father and for whom the divorce of their parents can become a trauma, lack of support from relatives, and so on. Thus, the woman tries to keep her family together, despite the fact that her position in this family is deteriorating over time.
Step 3
As you know, in any situation that occurs in the family, there is no one culprit, as a rule, both husband and wife are to blame.
If the couple is generally prosperous, if the spouses can calmly discuss the current state of affairs outside of a quarrel, if both are determined not only to preserve the family, but also to improve the quality of relationships, harmonize their life together, they can try to analyze their quarrels, find the causes of domestic violence in your family. A competent family psychologist can help a couple.
Step 4
Most often, the reason for the aggressive behavior of a husband towards his wife is an inferiority complex, self-doubt. This can manifest itself in those families where the woman is more educated, earns more or tries to solve all the issues on her own, without involving her husband in making family decisions. This causes a desire in a man to rise, to show his superiority, and he can do this only by showing his physical strength, rudeness, humiliating a woman by assault.
Step 5
The reason for a man's low self-esteem can be the psychological trauma he received in childhood. For example, the boy was raised by a single mother who often used physical punishment for educational purposes, was domineering and demanded complete submission from her son.
Step 6
Constant humiliation, insults and quarrels cause a woman to feel helpless, to believe that no one needs her. Such women are betrayed by their stoop, a heavy guilty look, unwillingness to take care of themselves, and how they "flourish" after the breakup of these painful relationships.
Step 7
What should a woman do if she has become a victim of domestic violence and, nevertheless, wants to keep the family?
It is important to feel attractive, to like yourself, to find something for your soul, perhaps some kind of part-time job, in order to stop being completely dependent on your husband financially. You can start small: change your hair color, hairstyle, buy yourself a new dress. Further more: sign up for a master class in dancing, drawing, sculpting or any other kind of art, get into the habit of regularly meeting with your friends and spending time in communication, and so on.
