Many couples break up, unable to cope with adaptation to each other in the first year of family life. Indeed, it is very difficult to resist the routine and deal with the increasing irritation. But this must be done.
Accept that conflicts are inevitable
The family is built from common habits and rituals, and it is very important to determine in time who is responsible for what in your small “cell of society”. In the first year of living together, you “probe” the boundaries of what is possible and what is not, and this inevitably leads to conflicts. The main thing is to remember that this period will end soon, and not to lose respect for each other, while remaining patient.
Deal with conflicts without outside help
During the candy-bouquet period, people try to prove themselves from the best side, carefully hiding their shortcomings. But when they start living together in the same apartment, it becomes incredibly difficult to hide something from each other, and all the flaws very quickly become discovered. This is where the problems begin.
The most important thing is to talk to each other and resolve the conflict together, instead of seeking advice from friends or family. No one knows your situation better than you do. Therefore, any advice you receive will be useless, and often following it will even bring harm.
Do not compete with each other
There is no need to prove which of you is in charge. Partners in mature, healthy relationships always strive for a compromise that would satisfy both parties and not infringe on anyone's interests. Look for a way out together, without trying to “pull the blanket over yourself,” and your mutual respect and trust will only grow.
Feel free to ask
Your partner is not a telepathic person, and he is not able to read your desires. Do not hesitate to voice your desires and requests to each other, there is nothing shameful in this, on the contrary, it will increase your chances of getting what you want. But be prepared that your partner may refuse your request; the refusal must be supported by an explanation of why the request cannot be complied with.
Keep your habits
The fact that people live together does not mean at all that they should become one whole. They are still different personalities with different desires, habits and weaknesses, and do not forget about this or try to change it. Of course, common aspirations and traditions appear, but you should not give up your originality. After all, you fell in love with each other for who you are, so why insist on drastic changes?
