The loss of a loved one is always a difficult event in our life. And the fact that we are far from alone in our grief cannot diminish or diminish our pain. What can help us survive the fatal blow of fate? First of all, grief must be wept out. His cup cannot be carried with you through life, like a precious vessel with an elixir. If we have had a chance to take a sip of bitterness, we need to plunge into it headlong and emerge in a new life. The path of grief is difficult and full of suffering, and it is better to walk it together with a person who understands and feels you.
Instructions
Step 1
In the first days after the loss, cry as much as possible. You should not listen to the comforting grandmothers and girlfriends advising you to go to unwind. The prohibition on the expression of emotions will only drive your feelings and pain deep into the depths, which will not slow down to manifest themselves in depression and illness.
Step 2
Open up your grief to family and friends. Talk a lot about your loss, about the person, about everything related to him. It is very important to burn out in the first days and weeks after the death of a loved one - there is a process of accepting the loss.
Step 3
Go to church and tell your grief to the priest, or just stand at the service. Worship helps to cope with loss and relieves the pain of a wounded soul. If you are a true atheist, do not break yourself. But think about a possible exception in this situation.
Step 4
Admit your powerlessness in the face of the inevitable. Philosophical reflections on the frailty of life can give the right direction to your thoughts. And at the same time to supplant the question, which is completely meaningless in essence: "why did this happen."
Step 5
When you don't feel like talking anymore, write your feelings, emotions, thoughts and inner cry on paper. Keep a diary and describe everything, even the most insignificant events in it. Draw on the sheets what your hand will draw. The result on paper is not important, it is important that it will be in the shower. Self-expression in the artistic sense removes the sharpness of perception well. This period can normally last from 2 to 6 months.
Step 6
In time, when the storm in your soul has subsided, make a plan for the first steps in your new life. You must understand that making a decision to continue living in the name of love and in the name of the future is exactly what our departed are waiting for and what our loved ones hope for.
Step 7
Exercise as you can. It doesn't matter what exactly - fitness, rhythm, gymnastics or football with the guys in the yard. The main thing here is to throw out negative energy, in return for receiving positive emotions.
Step 8
If you cannot cope with grief on your own, fear grows in your soul, you do not see the point in existence and live on autopilot, then the time has come for professional help. See a psychologist who works with burnout techniques. To do this, you need to find very little strength and take the first step. Then you will not be alone with this, and a new life will become a reality for you.
