It often seems to people that there are many troubles and irreparable situations in life, but in fact, almost everything can be replayed and changed, except for the most irreparable - the loss of a loved one. Against the background of this tragedy, all everyday sorrows fade away, and a huge bleeding wound remains on the soul. And the question arises of how to find the strength to live on?
Instructions
Step 1
Don't hold back trying to stifle tears and pain. On the contrary, allow yourself to "dive" into the very depths of grief in order to release despair and hopelessness with crying and tears. When it seems that the heart is about to fail and burst, and before the eyes a kaleidoscope flickers pictures from a lived and unlived life, when from the realization of the terrible word "never" and what could have been, but will never be, you just want to crying, but screaming in despair, you can and should give vent to emotions and even shout, this is in any case better than keeping grief in yourself, holding back with the last bit of strength.
Step 2
But at the same time, it is very important not to drown in a sea of tears, but to gradually return to normal life. Anything can be an incentive. You can go headlong into work, or, on the contrary, start paying increased attention to the family, you can come up with a hobby (any, the main thing is that it distracts at least a little from sad thoughts) or go for a short time to change the situation - it all depends on the possibilities and the current situation.
Step 3
It is very important to have close people nearby. Do not shut yourself off from the world and do not drive your relatives and friends away from you, reveling in your grief. Yes, in this difficult period it seems that no one in the whole world is able to understand your pain, words of support and participation often seem stupid and meaningless, but one should not forget the popular wisdom that shared grief is half a grief. With loved ones, you can remember a departed person and once again relive some significant life moments or, in the end, just be silent next to you.
Step 4
Resist the desire to create a kind of memorial at home. Let the departed person continue to live in the heart, in memories and in the photographs in the album, but leaving, for example, the desktop or the whole room intact as a token of memory of the deceased is not worth it (this is, of course, not about the first days after the funeral, but about much more long period).
Step 5
If it becomes obvious that the grief is so overwhelming that it is no longer possible to "swim" on its own, and the usual sedatives (like valerian, motherwort and some pharmaceuticals) do not work at all, do not hesitate to contact a specialist. Professional psychological help will help you look at the situation in a new way and find the strength to live on.
